Approx 2 years ago I was asked to be a bridesmaid in my friends wedding. I said yes with hesitation but not because I didn't want to be there for her, but because of the money I would have to spend to be in it (the cost of the dress alone was enough to send me into hyperventilation fits at any time). About a month after me saying yes, I talked to her and explained why I would have to back out and she understood, but of course was hurt. I was still totally involved in her process, helping her choose invites, look at venues, help her with spats with her bridesmaids, and of course attended all her parties before the wedding. Well now it's my turn to get married, and I want to ask her to be a bridesmaid but I feel like the biggest hypocrite in the world doing so. I've chickened out on more than 1 occasion to ask her, but I can't imagine not having her there with me on the big day. What should I do and how should I approach this? I'm really having some conflict with this one. TYIA.