Thank you cards for shower and wedding?

kcnolan21 · July 2013

Is it rude to print out thank you cards for the shower and wedding. My handwritting is terrible and I would rather not waste a bunch of cards trying to write individual thank you notes only to make mistakes and have to throw them away and start over?

Jen4948 · July 2013

I think that as long as they have written signatures, you can print the actual message.

mlg78 · July 2013

I also think they need to be done by hand. For the wedding, enlist the help of your husband! You can also pre-address the envelopes to get them out of the way as people RSVP so it isn't quite as daunting.

misssunshine17 · July 2013

Do them by hand. Anything else can come off as insincere. For the wedding, remember that your (then husband) FI can do some, too.

libby2483 · July 2013

Jen4948 said:

I think that as long as they have written signatures, you can print the actual message.

I disagree. I think that the whole thing should be handwritten. If I received a typed thank you note, unless it was extremely specific and personal, I would feel it was a "form" thank you letter that was insincere.

loca4pook · July 2013

You must handwrite it. Your guests will judge you WAY more for the "form letter" type response than a sincerely written letter with poor handwriting.

Jen4948 · July 2013

libby2483 said:

Jen4948 said:

I think that as long as they have written signatures, you can print the actual message.

I disagree. I think that the whole thing should be handwritten. If I received a typed thank you note, unless it was extremely specific and personal, I would feel it was a "form" thank you letter that was insincere.

Some people can't handwrite the whole thing because of physical damage to their hands. For example, my grandmother had multiple sclerosis that made it really, really hard for her to write. The best she could do was sign things.

I agree that in general it's better to handwrite the whole thing, but if that's not physically possible, then I think one should at least hand sign it. But you know something? In this day and age it's so nice and special to get anything at all that I wouldn't criticize it for being printed or typed. It's the thought and message that counts, and I'm not going to criticize a nice message as a "form" letter that is "insincere."

libby2483 · July 2013

Jen4948 said:

libby2483 said:

Jen4948 said:

I think that as long as they have written signatures, you can print the actual message.

I disagree. I think that the whole thing should be handwritten. If I received a typed thank you note, unless it was extremely specific and personal, I would feel it was a "form" thank you letter that was insincere.

Some people can't handwrite the whole thing because of physical damage to their hands. For example, my grandmother had multiple sclerosis that made it really, really hard for her to write. The best she could do was sign things.

I agree that in general it's better to handwrite the whole thing, but if that's not physically possible, then I think one should at least hand sign it. But you know something? In this day and age it's so nice and special to get anything at all that I wouldn't criticize it for being printed or typed. It's the thought and message that counts, and I'm not going to criticize a nice message as a "form" letter that is "insincere."

I agree that there can be exceptions if someone is physically unable to write. But that isn't the case here. The OP said the reason that she doesn't want to write them is that she has terrible handwriting, not that she has a physical condition that prevents her from writing.

As for the bold, that's precisely the problem. If it is typed, unless it is very specific and personal, there isn't genuine thought put into it. And call me old fashioned, but I still expect a hand-written thank you when I give a wedding gift.

Jen4948 · July 2013

libby2483 said:

Jen4948 said:

libby2483 said:

Jen4948 said:

I think that as long as they have written signatures, you can print the actual message.

I disagree. I think that the whole thing should be handwritten. If I received a typed thank you note, unless it was extremely specific and personal, I would feel it was a "form" thank you letter that was insincere.

Some people can't handwrite the whole thing because of physical damage to their hands. For example, my grandmother had multiple sclerosis that made it really, really hard for her to write. The best she could do was sign things.

I agree that in general it's better to handwrite the whole thing, but if that's not physically possible, then I think one should at least hand sign it. But you know something? In this day and age it's so nice and special to get anything at all that I wouldn't criticize it for being printed or typed. It's the thought and message that counts, and I'm not going to criticize a nice message as a "form" letter that is "insincere."

I agree that there can be exceptions if someone is physically unable to write. But that isn't the case here. The OP said the reason that she doesn't want to write them is that she has terrible handwriting, not that she has a physical condition that prevents her from writing.

As for the bold, that's precisely the problem. If it is typed, unless it is very specific and personal, there isn't genuine thought put into it. And call me old fashioned, but I still expect a hand-written thank you when I give a wedding gift.

This is what I disagree with. A person can indeed come up with a very personal message and put plenty of thought into it without writing it down. You don't know what's going through people's heads when they put it down, so to claim that there isn't genuine thought put into it just because it isn't written is really insulting to them.

BangBangs39 · July 2013

I agree with @jen4948 - I like to be able to read the Thank you note so if you can get a better thank you card done via typing - then that's what you should do. If you're handwriting is bad, and you hate writing things, then it could end up being less personal because you just want it done. Make sure you reference exactly what you got from the person and maybe what you've used it for/where you put it/ what you did with it, etc. Make sure to sign it yourself.

libby2483 · July 2013

Jen4948 said:

libby2483 said:

Jen4948 said:

libby2483 said:

Jen4948 said:

I think that as long as they have written signatures, you can print the actual message.

I disagree. I think that the whole thing should be handwritten. If I received a typed thank you note, unless it was extremely specific and personal, I would feel it was a "form" thank you letter that was insincere.

Some people can't handwrite the whole thing because of physical damage to their hands. For example, my grandmother had multiple sclerosis that made it really, really hard for her to write. The best she could do was sign things.

I agree that in general it's better to handwrite the whole thing, but if that's not physically possible, then I think one should at least hand sign it. But you know something? In this day and age it's so nice and special to get anything at all that I wouldn't criticize it for being printed or typed. It's the thought and message that counts, and I'm not going to criticize a nice message as a "form" letter that is "insincere."

I agree that there can be exceptions if someone is physically unable to write. But that isn't the case here. The OP said the reason that she doesn't want to write them is that she has terrible handwriting, not that she has a physical condition that prevents her from writing.

As for the bold, that's precisely the problem. If it is typed, unless it is very specific and personal, there isn't genuine thought put into it. And call me old fashioned, but I still expect a hand-written thank you when I give a wedding gift.

This is what I disagree with. A person can indeed come up with a very personal message and put plenty of thought into it without writing it down. You don't know what's going through people's heads when they put it down, so to claim that there isn't genuine thought put into it just because it isn't written is really insulting to them.

I agree with the bolded, which is why I said, " If I received a typed thank you note, unless it was extremely specific and personal, I would feel it was a "form" thank you letter that was insincere." If the message is indeed specific and personal, I really wouldn't care that it wasn't handwritten. However, the OP said that she didn't want to take the time to write "individual" thank you cards, which made me think she would probably do something more along the lines to a form thank you card.

Jen4948 · July 2013

libby2483 said:

Jen4948 said:

libby2483 said:

Jen4948 said:

libby2483 said:

Jen4948 said:

I think that as long as they have written signatures, you can print the actual message.

I disagree. I think that the whole thing should be handwritten. If I received a typed thank you note, unless it was extremely specific and personal, I would feel it was a "form" thank you letter that was insincere.

Some people can't handwrite the whole thing because of physical damage to their hands. For example, my grandmother had multiple sclerosis that made it really, really hard for her to write. The best she could do was sign things.

I agree that in general it's better to handwrite the whole thing, but if that's not physically possible, then I think one should at least hand sign it. But you know something? In this day and age it's so nice and special to get anything at all that I wouldn't criticize it for being printed or typed. It's the thought and message that counts, and I'm not going to criticize a nice message as a "form" letter that is "insincere."

I agree that there can be exceptions if someone is physically unable to write. But that isn't the case here. The OP said the reason that she doesn't want to write them is that she has terrible handwriting, not that she has a physical condition that prevents her from writing.

As for the bold, that's precisely the problem. If it is typed, unless it is very specific and personal, there isn't genuine thought put into it. And call me old fashioned, but I still expect a hand-written thank you when I give a wedding gift.

This is what I disagree with. A person can indeed come up with a very personal message and put plenty of thought into it without writing it down. You don't know what's going through people's heads when they put it down, so to claim that there isn't genuine thought put into it just because it isn't written is really insulting to them.

I agree with the bolded, which is why I said, " If I received a typed thank you note, unless it was extremely specific and personal, I would feel it was a "form" thank you letter that was insincere." If the message is indeed specific and personal, I really wouldn't care that it wasn't handwritten. However, the OP said that she didn't want to take the time to write "individual" thank you cards, which made me think she would probably do something more along the lines to a form thank you card.

Okay, thanks. I do agree that the message itself has to be customized and I don't like that the OP doesn't plan to do that.

But I think it is possible to send sincere, customized, thoughtful messages that just were transferred to paper by means of typing or printing. The medium shouldn't matter as long as the wording does. And I do think that the signature should be handwritten.

libby2483 · July 2013

Jen4948 said:

libby2483 said:

Jen4948 said:

libby2483 said:

Jen4948 said:

libby2483 said:

Jen4948 said:

I think that as long as they have written signatures, you can print the actual message.

I disagree. I think that the whole thing should be handwritten. If I received a typed thank you note, unless it was extremely specific and personal, I would feel it was a "form" thank you letter that was insincere.

Some people can't handwrite the whole thing because of physical damage to their hands. For example, my grandmother had multiple sclerosis that made it really, really hard for her to write. The best she could do was sign things.

I agree that in general it's better to handwrite the whole thing, but if that's not physically possible, then I think one should at least hand sign it. But you know something? In this day and age it's so nice and special to get anything at all that I wouldn't criticize it for being printed or typed. It's the thought and message that counts, and I'm not going to criticize a nice message as a "form" letter that is "insincere."

I agree that there can be exceptions if someone is physically unable to write. But that isn't the case here. The OP said the reason that she doesn't want to write them is that she has terrible handwriting, not that she has a physical condition that prevents her from writing.

As for the bold, that's precisely the problem. If it is typed, unless it is very specific and personal, there isn't genuine thought put into it. And call me old fashioned, but I still expect a hand-written thank you when I give a wedding gift.

This is what I disagree with. A person can indeed come up with a very personal message and put plenty of thought into it without writing it down. You don't know what's going through people's heads when they put it down, so to claim that there isn't genuine thought put into it just because it isn't written is really insulting to them.

I agree with the bolded, which is why I said, " If I received a typed thank you note, unless it was extremely specific and personal, I would feel it was a "form" thank you letter that was insincere." If the message is indeed specific and personal, I really wouldn't care that it wasn't handwritten. However, the OP said that she didn't want to take the time to write "individual" thank you cards, which made me think she would probably do something more along the lines to a form thank you card.

Okay, thanks. I do agree that the message itself has to be customized and I don't like that the OP doesn't plan to do that.

But I think it is possible to send sincere, customized, thoughtful messages that just were transferred to paper by means of typing or printing. The medium shouldn't matter as long as the wording does. And I do think that the signature should be handwritten.

I agree. I would still prefer handwritten, but I would certainly take a typed, but thoughtful thank you note over nothing!

kcnolan21 · July 2013

kcnolan21 said:

Is it rude to print out thank you cards for the shower and wedding. My handwritting is terrible and I would rather not waste a bunch of cards trying to write individual thank you notes only to make mistakes and have to throw them away and start over?

I never said that I didn't "want to take the time" or that they would be a "form" note. I seen alot of post about them being handwritten and just wanted to know if I typed notes would be rude.

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