Engagement Parties

Re: Engagement Parties

• manateehugger member

  

  July 2013

  KeeleyPayne said:

  Hi, all! I am very newly engaged and really want an engagement party- nothing big, just dinner and drinks at a local pub that means a lot to my fiance and I, along with our friends. I've been reading that the couple shouldn't host their own engagement party, but I'd feel wrong telling someone to throw a party for us- does that make sense? Basically, my question is would it be tacky to throw our own, even as simple as I want it to be? Thanks in advance!
  

  You're right - it is very poor etiquette (and tacky) to host/throw your own engagement party. It doesn't matter what form the party is in - if it's celebrating your engagement, you're hosting your own engagement party. It is also very poor etiquette to ask someone to host one for you. These parties are gifts; so it would be comparable to going up to a friend and saying "Hey, I really want you to get me that KitchenAid Mixer for Christmas. Thanks!"

  What you can do is simply host an awesome get-together that's not about the engagement. So have a BBQ or do a pub crawl, just don't market it as your engagement party (i.e. don't say "let's celebrate our engagement" or send out formal invites).

  People will get all excited and congratulate you anyway. We went to a Thanksgiving dinner party a month after we got engaged and people still fawned over us even though it was not our event.
  

  

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• AddieCake member

  

  July 2013

  You shouldn't throw your own, nor should you ask anyone to throw one.

  What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14

  

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• Bubbles2014 member

  

  July 2013

  You can't ask anyone to throw you a party. You're newly engaged and excited, I get that, but take a breath. Someone may offer to throw you one later, or you may not have one at all. Either is fine.
  

  
  

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• thisismynickname2 member

  

  July 2013

  I second PDKH.

  
  

  If you want to get all your friends together and do something fun, get all your friends together and do something fun-- and don't call it an engagement party. Or sit back and see if someone throws one for you. Like PDHK suggests, there will still be other opportunities to see your friends and loved ones. I think if you don't have a dedicated party you still will not be short of opportunities for folks to congratulate you in person. 
  

  
  

  In my case, it turned out my fiance proposed a few days before my Big 3-0, so I already had plans to get our families together and other plans to party with my friends.  I was thankful there was another occasion to celebrate besides me turning 30 (which honestly I was getting depressed about).  "Happy birthday! OMG let me see your ring, congrats!"  LOL.   

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• misssunshine17 member

  

  July 2013

  Don't throw your own & no one offers to throw one= no engagement party. Same thing for showers. 

  
  

  By all means, have a BBQ that you host, get together, eat & drink, tell the story of how you got engaged, but don't call it a engagement party. 

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