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Addressing Invitations

schellzinatorschellzinator member
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Hello! I hope you all had a great weekend. :)  

I know the "proper" etiquette for addressing the outer (or only in my case) envelope is: Mr. and Mrs. John Doe.  I'm struggling with this though...because the female friends and family from my side - I feel I should be acknowledging them on the invitation.  Basically, I feel this way because I know the "Mr." that is being invited through the Mrs. For example - I'm friends with Mrs. Barb S. from college.  She got married last June to a Mr. Jim S. Technically my invitation should read "Mr. and Mrs. Jim S. I'm having trouble mentally not acknowledging Barb.

Is anyone else having this inner battle? My guess is no - and I'm just nit picking...

I've also seen Mr. Jim and Mrs. Barb S. Or Mr. and Mrs. Jim and Barb S. - but those don't look right...




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  • SewInLoveWithDMBSewInLoveWithDMB member
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    You're overthinking. It's Mr. and Mrs. John Doe. It doesn't matter which guest you know better. Barb will be fine.
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  • schellzinatorschellzinator member
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    Thanks @sewinlovewithdmb I NEEDED someone to tell me that :)
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  • SwimGuppySwimGuppy member
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    Martha Stewart gives some good guidance in formal/less formal methods. Use whichever feels true to you and your relationship to the couple. http://www.marthastewartweddings.com/228650/addressing-and-mailing-your-wedding-invitations/@center/272440/wedding-etiquette-adviser#105894

    Oh, and for some folks, I'm going traditional (older guests), less formal for others (younger & families) - no need for a one-size for everyone since they will only see the invite that comes to them.
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  • schellzinatorschellzinator member
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    Thanks! I knew I was overthinking it :)
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  • jaenellajaenella member
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    I had the same issue. Eventually I ended up writing Mr. Jim and Mrs. Barb S or Mrs. Barb and Mr. Jim S because it felt right to me, although for older couples I did the traditional way.

    In the end - it's just the outer envelope. As long as it has the right names on it and gets to the right places, I highly doubt anyone will be offended either way. Can you remember how the last piece of mail you received was addressed? I definitely can't!
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  • hardlyhannahhardlyhannah member
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    Confession - I still don't know what an 'inner' envelope is.

    I don't care to know either. It sounds silly. Why do you need more than one envelope, other than the main one and RSVP one?
    image 209 Invited
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  • SilverSarahBSilverSarahB member
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    I dropped the "Mr. / Mrs." and did First Names and Last Names.  Suzie and Mark Salsburry, Jane Ingram and Louise Kampf.  

    As long as they know who it's for, and inside is an invitation to your wedding, it'll all be okay.
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  • rkborkbo member
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    We used inner and outer envelopes. We did the whole Mr. & Mrs. John Smith on the outside, and on the inside we only wrote their first names. We wanted the outside to look all proper and shiz, but we are very laid back and having a laid back wedding. So we only wrote the first names on the inner envelope. John & Jane and if they had kids, we would put the kids' names on them too, John, Jane, Jimmy & Julie. 
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