I have a dilemma involving a close male friend. He is like a brother to me, and we've never been in anything other than a platonic relationship, and this is clear to everyone we know. We grew up in the same apartment complex, have stayed in touch through out college, and our families are very close to each other (we set up his mother and step father, and often celebrate the holidays with each other). He got engaged to a woman he dated during college, and I was excited for him because she makes him extremely happy.
That being said, I saw him and his fiance earlier this year. His FI started talking about politics, specifically about abortion and adoption. I should have kept my mouth shut, but she asked for my opinion. She said some very off color things in regards to my viewpoint about abortion and adoption. As someone who is adopted, I believe that its someone's right to choose, she disagreed and then went to a "bad" place where Jesus was brought up, and how I would feel if my biological mother aborted me. At that point I didn't have the energy nor did I want to waste my time creating a harsh comeback. I paid my portion of the check, said a cordial goodbye, and left.
I got engaged a few months after that dinner. My friend and I have been in contact since then, and it seemed like there was no harm done between us. Recently he asked me how my wedding planning was going (via gchat). I gave a short response, and there was a long pause in the conversation. He then proceeded to tell me that his FI didn't want my family and I on their guest list because my viewpoints didn't go with her values, and that they didn't feel as though our families were close enough to make the guest list. He then faltered to say that they reached capacity, and that it was nothing personal. I brushed it off and tried to carry on the conversation while avoiding the pink elephant in the room.
It is my understanding that the bride's family is paying for the wedding, but I don't understand where this is coming from (especially after knowing him for so long), and my family is fairly upset about this as well. I didn't want to say anything during that chat because I felt upset and I didn't know if she was looking over his shoulder at that time. I am trying really hard not to take this personally, but something inside me feels as though this is a response from that dinner. I don't know how to approach him to ask if there was something I did, and if so, how can I make reparation? At this point I don't care about the invite, I care more about our friendship. What should I do?