Father of the Bride is Deceased

Re: Father of the Bride is Deceased

• MobKaz member

  

  July 2013

  Speak with your minister.  I would think you would have the option of omitting this question from your ceremony.

  
  

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• kipnus member

  

  July 2013

  I would just skip that part, if I were you. Actually, we skipped it even though my parents are both alive and supportive, because I don't like the implication that the bride is property.

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• Simply Fated member

  

  July 2013

  I agree with skipping that part or changing the wording somehow. Talk to your minister for some good ideas, surely he or she has seen this before.
  

  
  

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• HisGirlFriday13 member

  

  July 2013

  @CMGr, so traditions are OK unless they involve dead babies, in which case, you arbitrarily decide they don't?

  

  
  

  
  

  I'm gonna go with 'not my circus, not my monkeys.'

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• Bubbles2014 member

  

  July 2013

  I'm skipping it. I'm not a goat being given away, I'm a fully consenting adult who has chosen to get married. If you skip it I doubt anyone will notice. Our celebrant also suggested that he ask who supports our marriage and then your families can say "we do". That could be an option for you
  

  
  

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• QueerFemme member

  

  July 2013

  Another vote for just skipping that part. Just walk up to the front of the aisle, hand your bouquet off to your MOH, and take your future husband's hands, and that can be a signal to the officiant to begin.

  

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• manateehugger member

  

  July 2013

  Our pastor gave us the wording option of "Who blesses this marriage?" (or something like that - I forget). That might be an option. A wedding we went to recently also just had the mother stand and say I do. I think doing something like that or just skipping the "giving away" would be just fine.

  It doesn't have sexist connotations to me - I view it as my parents blessing the start of me joining my own new family, though I understand why some people feel about it the way they do.

  

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• iloveu4ever member

  

  July 2013

  weeziec said:

  My father passed away a few years ago and I am not that close to my mother.  I plan to walk my self down the aisle but I'm uncertain of what to do when the minister asks who gives the bride away.  Would it be wrong for me to say something like "with the love and support of my family and friends I give myself to this man" or should I just have my mom stand up and say she does. 

   

  LOVE that part about family support

  
   

  
  

  
   

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