Facebook/Email Save the Date Announcement

Re: Facebook/Email Save the Date Announcement

• Maggie0829 member

  

  July 2013 edited July 2013

  I think sending emails to your VIPs would be fine, especially if you aren't having a super formal wedding (if you were I would be expecting nice STDs in the mail).

  As for FB, I tend to stay away from anything on FB even private messages when it comes to weddings.

  Edit:  I would just send the emails to VIPs and those that may need to make travel plans.  I honestly believe sending STDs to every single person on your invite list is a bad idea because you never know what may happen and you may have to cut the guest list but once a STD is sent that person has to be invited.  Just be cautious when it comes time to announcing to everyone when and where your wedding is.

  
  

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• manateehugger member

  

  July 2013

  Ditto Maggie for everything.
  
  We are doing STD's, but my mom an FMIL still sent emails to the family shortly after we set the date just as a heads up.

  

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• itzMS member

  

  July 2013

  Another vote for emails only if you must, not FB. Is there any way you could call them, though?

  Emails can still be forwarded and perhaps put you in a sticky situation...

   

  I was "invited" to join a private FB STD group for a wedding once. It was weird.

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• AprilH81 member

  

  July 2013

  Yeah, we are NOT setting up a wedding group/event or posting this to our general friends lists.  

  
  

  The majority of our guests will have to travel 2-3 hours for the event (in the winter) and I want to make sure they can start to make plans.  It isn't a destination wedding but most of our family and college friends are scattered throughout the state.  

  
  

  Our wedding isn't casual, but it isn't black tie either.  We are planning a late morning/noonish ceremony and a lunch reception.

  

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• misssunshine17 member

  

  July 2013

  I'm with Maggie. I would keep it off facebook, but email is fine. 

  
  

  Just know that once it's sent, there's no cutting the guest list. 

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• Peaseblossom55 mod

  

  July 2013

  I would emails or calls and nothing on FB even in terms of private messages

  
  

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• SomethingBeautiful08 member

  

  July 2013

  I have some friends that, unfortunately a FB private message is the best way to get a hold of them, even over email and sometimes calling on the phone.  If that is your situation with some friends go for it, just be careful.  There have been too many FB horror stories around here, we don't want you to be one of them.
  

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• harper0813 member

  

  July 2013

  I think a heads up to your VIPs is fine - but no Facebook. Emailing, or calling even, would be better.

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• Kate61487 member

  

  July 2013

  ehh I don't have a problem with FB PM vs email; they seem pretty much the same to me. 

  What I don't like is when the FB invitation is confusing - my cousin invited me to an event for his September destination wedding months ago.  I have no idea if this is a STD, a "if you say you're coming on here you'll actually get an invitation", if it IS the invitation and nothing else will be coming... 

  

   
  

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• deannagirly member

  

  July 2013

  I'd e-mail people. Or if you want something a little more formal than that, there is those no-paper e-mail save the date things. I've never actually seen one, but they could work.
  

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• Belle2188 member

  

  July 2013

  I agree that e-mail would be better than Facebook.  What about using Paperless Post to e-mail something a little nicer?

  
  

  http://www.paperlesspost.com/cards/category/wedding-save-the-dates
  

  

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• Simply Fated member

  

  July 2013

  I think e-mail and phone calls are the best ways to go. I don't always see my fb messages, if I click off them by accident without reading them first. But my email I check more carefully. Same with my phone messages. I tend to take FB message less seriously because the info given on them is rarely anything more than "It's been awhile, we should hang out soon!" or "Don't forget to 'like' my page!" or something generic like that.
  

  
  

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• cheapbrideincentpa

  

  July 2013 edited July 2013

  I see no problem with FB especially if you are all friends. I sent a FB STD msg to a group of close friends, and it ended in a hilarious conversation. I also sent a separate FB msg to an our of town friend who would want to come and due to her job needs to know ASAP. But we communicate mostly between FB and text msg. Not sure that any of us really e-mail each other anyway.
  

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