Tacky or personal taste article

footballwife77 · July 2013

Go.

http://madamenoire.com/282272/tacky-trends-were-tired-of-seeing-at-weddings-is-it-time-to-let-these-traditions-go/

I don't know if i agree with the dress one. I think venturing outside of white is fine.

shaygray88 · July 2013

I agree with you the dress one took me by surprise. Honestly its to each their own IMOH. Only we know our guests...

minsu5 · July 2013

I found myself disagreeing with most items on their list.

#1 - I'm not inviting the kids and it's not tacky, its prudential. If I wanted to have a family reunion instead of a wedding, I would rent out space at Druid Hill Park and invite everybody.

#2 - Ice sculptures are still cool in my book. A properly made sculpture shouldn't melt all over the place. The fears mentioned in the article was unfounded IMO.

#3 - I will agree with the Facebook invite. I had an acquaintance who used a Facebook invite as his save-the-date to all +500 friends and then was surprised he had +200 confirmed attendees. Then, he sent a "I'm sorry I didn't invite you, but check out my new wedding website" letter through Facebook. It was so bad, I had to save the it in my records.

#4 - I never cared much about chocolate fountains. I don't discriminate against any form of chocolate, so I had no complaints. However, if someone wanted to kick it up a notch, how about creating something like a chocolate fondue for each take, like at the Melting Pot?

amjcwedding · July 2013

I actually agree with most of this. As for the dress, I agree to an extent. Nothing wrong with venturing out of the white family but camo, led lights and american flag dresses are too much IMO. As far as kids are concerned, the only kids that should be in attendance should be in the bridal party. It's my day, and I don't believe I should have to give a little - heck, I am paying thousands of dollars it WILL be how I want it to be.

I am surprised that photo-booths, and mason jars weren't on this list.

[Deleted User] · July 2013

Dougie's back!!!!! {{confetti}} - okay don't do a Natalee Holloway again, my inner puppy doesn't care where you went I just wanna know that you're coming back.

mooooving along - Tash here's what I headnodded and what she can miss me with

agreed:
any dress that has nekkid ways = you have not one real friend in the world. just no.

chocolate fountain - this simply combines all my shudder-worthy squickiness about ANY fountain. double dipping, fingerprints and dna. someone sticks a piece of pineapple in their mouth, bites a little, then pulls the remaining fruit stick out and puts it in the fountain...do I need to continue? yeah it's a steaming tower of hepatitis. and that's coming from somebody who hearts chocolate.

praise dancers or really any kind of specialty performance art - it's a personal preference thing of course, but I think it's doing too much. andplusalso it's beautiful but I couldn't care less, I'm probably gonna use that time to hit the ladies room.

ice sculptures - I don't think they're tacky but considering all there is to pay for at a wedding, a little pointless. if you're really that bored at the shrimp table you've been there too long. please see couldn't care less.

disagree:

tradition notwithstanding not everybody likes or looks good in white.

banning kids - she can have several seats. small children change the tone of a wedding. If I wanted a bunch of noise and mess I'd get married at the house. This doesn't even apply to me I don't know any parents who would look for a reason not to have a free date night. I haven't even touched on the extra cost but that thing she said about people not wanting to hire a babysitter? lol {{sings the attendance isn't mandatory song}}

no alcohol - again couldn't disagree more strongly - my only pearl clutch about this is if guests pay for whatever you offer, regardless of what the offering is.

bride's car - this was really serious enough to mention? like the only time out of 30 that I ever even noticed the car (including the ones I've ridden in) was when the bride pulled up in a white 1952 rolls silver ghost and that's only because it's my "if money were no object" car. I digress, lol. skateboard over if you want, the whole thing is shrugworthy to me.

asking for money - do people do this? because if so, I wanna be nosey and ask how and where lol.

in the middle:

ratchet music - the thing is you know your audience, if this is how ya'll get it in as a family, fine. if not and you go this route anyway, be fully prepared for maw maw n' nem to slap you cross your ear with her purse-bible.

money dance - okay for the couple to include a money dance is tacky but there are some cultures *ahem* whose tradition involves simply starting a money dance, it's not something that's asked for or expected but they shower the couple in bills as it were. i'm not mad at this at all as long as it wasn't the couple's plan

crown - if you wanna come out wearing a ball of dayum yarn on your head do that if it makes you feel pretty. I'll talk about you out loud but I will also fistpump your confidence.

i'm surprised she didn't include gloves, *getting the garter* and horse drawn carriages on the list.

um, people are get married in stores?

leatba · July 2013

I don't even know where to start. A lot of what she is against was probably presented wrong. I'm not going to project my own level of bou-ghettoness onto someone else. Ijs

minsu5 · July 2013

amjcwedding said:

I am surprised that photo-booths, and mason jars weren't on this list.

Oh no you didn't! LOL

minsu5 · July 2013

sultryzulu said:

Dougie's back!!!!! {{confetti}} - okay don't do a Natalee Holloway again, my inner puppy doesn't care where you went I just wanna know that you're coming back.

i'm surprised she didn't include gloves, *getting the garter* and horse drawn carriages on the list.

Sorry @sultryzulu, I'm nearing the end of my summer classes. For a minute, I had to play catch up with my notes so I took time away from TK. Thursday is exam day, so me wish luck~

I'm with you on the getting of the garter. It's so odd and I don't know why people continue to do it. On more than one occassion, I have seen cousins catch the bouquet and garter and it's not cute afterwards.

Also, I have been to a formal banquet and a wedding with a modern dance performer. On both occasions was I not in awe. In fact, at the wedding, I sat in fear. The performance occurred before the grooms marched in and I was sitting closest to the aisle. The dancer had on a loose-fitted leotard with the sides exposed. You could easily tell she wasn't wearing a bra. The whole time, as she was twirling around and leaping back and forth, I was praying to God that her boob wouldn't pop out and smack me on the head. A couple times, she came close because the aisles were narrow.

Never, ever again, will I expose myself to a head injury.

LeciaB · July 2013

I kind of agree with a lot of them..

expecially the praise dances/dance performances.. (no offense)..the misters family tried to offer one of those to me..i quickly shut that one down..and the kids one too.. if i wanted man-man there he would have been on the inviation.. also the revealing dress.. come on show some class someone's grandmother will be there... Also If you like it I love it..FOR YOU.. but i do not like cant stand the crown and for good measure we can throw the gloves in the mix too

Chocolate fountains adn ice scupltures are cool but its not my flavor.. um the pulling up in any ride..wait by this time isnt everyone suppose to be waiting on the bride.. this is why I am not making a big fuss about the transportation.

the no drinks one is kind of touchy becasue you dont know people's finaces so.. drinks might not be a priority.

im on the fence about asking for money..and the money dance

and hey everyone loves a little rachet music i think..lol, Im not against colored dresses either BUT....lets remember its a wedding not.. your birthday party.

and I have never heard of getting married at your favorite store

thedivav · July 2013

there will be no kids allowed at my wedding and i will have on a crown humpf

its mah wedding i will do what i want lol

aquari0216 · July 2013

CLEARLY ALL HER PERSONAL OPINION

drmass2013 · July 2013

I've been MIA for like 2 weeks I've missed you ladies. This is clearly all her personal opinion it's your day do what you want. It's just personal taste. A lot of the things in the article like chocolate fountains and ice sculptures just isn't my taste. Now Facebook invites and visible tattoos are a little tacky in my book. My mom's neighbor got married a few months ago everybody was invited via Facebook and I said to myself lets see how this is going play out. All of the BMs had visible tats even the bride, the dresses were so short I wondered was their an after party at the club, and I think ratchet music was the theme or something cause nothing else was played. Now I'm all for a little ratchet music but mix it up please everyone isn't for backing it up and dropping it like its hot the whole time I mean have some respect for Grandma and them.

tirathemrs · July 2013

I honestly think the whole praise dance and any other performers are a bit over the top, however.....I do plan on having the Bahamian band called the Junaknoo to make a little appearance during my reception but again thats the islander in me.... Now the whole Tiara thing ummmm not to offend anyone (IT IS YOUR WEDDING) im just not into the princess-y thing so i personally wouldnt do it, I mean im grown and getting married not becoming the next Ms America NEXT!!! The ice sculpters uhh if you want to watch your money melt by all means go ahead girlfriend... Now on the note of RATCHET music i think its a matter of taste and whos there, now im down for a lil scrubbing the ground but not the whole time and beside grum grum will surely give me the side eye!! LOL... Colored dresses can be beautiful on brides i just really dont like black, red or dark colored dresses, uhh maam are u marrying satan himself IMHO IJS!!!

minsu5 · July 2013

drmass2013 said:

I think ratchet music was the theme or something cause nothing else was played. Now I'm all for a little ratchet music but mix it up please everyone isn't for backing it up and dropping it like its hot the whole time I mean have some respect for Grandma and them.

Reminds me how my Best Woman said she wants to twerk at my reception. SMH Ain't no rachetedness is happening at my wedding.

[Deleted User] · July 2013

aww dougie!! you mean this doesn't look classy to you? dang it, he's not (t)working, click him. lol.

tirathemrs · July 2013

sultryzulu said:

aww dougie!! you mean this doesn't look classy to you? dang it, he's not (t)working, click him. lol.

LMAO lol lol ok first of all how do you add these gif's and second he was definitely working that back LOL LOL LOL

minsu5 · July 2013

misstira said:

sultryzulu said:

aww dougie!! you mean this doesn't look classy to you? dang it, he's not (t)working, click him. lol.
LMAO lol lol ok first of all how do you add these gif's and second he was definitely working that back LOL LOL LOL

He's twerking like his rent depends on it. But, nah, we can twerk before or after the ceremony, but not during.

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