This isn't really a question as much as I'm just sharing a breach of etiquette that occurred recently.
My first cousin, who is 19 (maybe 20 by now) just recently got married. She's quite young in my opinion, but it's not my business.
A month or two ago, somebody threw a shower for her. I was invited, as was my mother. I attended, brought gifts, ate food, had a good time.
While chatting with my cousin, she mentioned that the wedding was originally set for September, and that they were currently getting their home ready (as both the bride and groom live with their parents).
A couple weeks later, my mom casually mentions in passing that my uncle (cousin's dad) said the wedding is being moved up. I guess they got their home ready, and it was "just sitting there waiting on them" (not my words), so they wanted to move the wedding up to June or July. I should mention that this is a very simple country wedding that is pretty common in this area. They don't always take a lot of planning, which is why it can be relatively easy to move the date on short notice.
Anyway, I thought to myself that the wedding must be very close, and so I wondered when I'd get an invitation, since, you know, you don't invite someone to the shower to get gifts from them, but not invite them to the wedding.
At a family reunion in June (cousin wasn't there), I overheard my uncle say that the wedding was the next weekend, or maybe the one after that. I'm not sure since I didn't hear him clearly.
I temporarily forgot about it, but then the next Sunday, I saw some photographs on Facebook of the wedding with a lot of family there, including my mother.
I wasn't angry, as I figured it was a big oversight, especially with moving the wedding up. Heck, maybe the invitation was lost in the mail. I admit that I was a bit annoyed though. My cousin is young, a little naive even, and probably a bit ignorant when it comes to such etiquette. I mentally gave her a pass because I almost think she doesn't know any better (assuming that this wasn't an oversight or lost invitation). Overall, she's a considerate person, very responsible, etc., so I don't hold a grudge over it.
I later mentioned it to my mother, and her reply?
She said, "Oh, well, you WERE invited. Your name was on my invitation. I must've forgotten to tell you when and where it was!"
Oh, okay...
Thanks, mom.
Thanks, cousin.
*facepalm*
Normally, I'm not someone to call and ask the bride and groom about invitations and the like, but in this case, if I would've called, this could've been cleared up and I would've gotten to attend. Oh well.
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