My husband and I recently got married in Romania. He is from Romania, I am from the US. I wanted to get married at home, but due to immigration and visa difficulties, it made more sense for us to marry in Romania. Now, the visas have come through and we are planning on moving to the US in August/September. My mother really wants us to have a marriage celebration in the states. I am fine with this, especially considering most of my family has never met him before. I told my mom that was could have a party celebrating our marriage, but it isn't a wedding. I won't wear a wedding dress. I won't have a ceremony, etc. I thought I made this very clear. She is paying for the entire thing.
She went and told all of her family and friends that we are getting married in the states and they all will be invited to the wedding. She is also telling them that the Romanian marriage doesnt count and we have to have a "real" marriage in America. Ugh. Mom. Now, a few people have contacted us either confused or excited. While we have tried to spread the truth through word of mouth, it is difficult because we are in a different country.
Help me, please. How can I clear things up? When I send out the invitation, I want to include a marriage announcement with a photo of us at our ceremony to make t obvious that we are already married. Any other ideas?
I spoke with my mom. I know she is disappointed she missed the wedding, but I just wish she wasn't handling it this way. She doesn't want me to call the whole thing off, so I think she will "behave" when it comes to planning, but I feel like the damage has already been done.