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What to do...

ldukes9ldukes9 member
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So I just got an invitation for my cousin's wedding and first of all, my name is spelled wrong...Second of all, it is addressed to just me and not my FI.  Not even me and guest, just me.  So I called up my mom to ask about it and she tells me that of course he is invited and I should just write his name in.  I told her that even though they were rude to not invite my FI that it would be just as rude to write someone's name onto the RSVP that wasn't specifically invited.  

So I'm not really sure what to do, the wedding is 6 hours away so I would not be going without my FI.  Do you think I should take my mom's advice and write his name in? 

The funny thing is, I was just joking with FI the other day about how they were probably going to do something rude like not invite him since this side of the family is UBER religious and definitely thinks I am going to hell for living with FI before we were married or even engaged.
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  • southernbelle0915southernbelle0915 mod
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    I would write in your name (correct spelling obviously - maybe they'll get the hint) AND your FI's name. If they call you and tell you he's not invited, I would tell them you have to rescind your RSVP and that you will not be attending. I wouldn't go to a wedding where my FI wasn't invited either!
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  • meggiemomeggiemo member
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    Is there an inner envelope that he might have been addressed on? If not, I'm not sure what I would do!
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  • Ven&RadioVen&Radio member
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    I would get I touch with your cousin and ask if your fiance is invited, personally.
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  • ldukes9ldukes9 member
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    Hmm, I personally haven't spoken to this cousin in years and don't really have a way of getting in touch, but my mom offered to call the family and ask so I'll probably take her up on that.  Thanks for the help!
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    Your mom should not call FOR you. It's fine if she obtains a phone number for you, but then you should be the one calling.
    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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  • SomethingBeautiful08SomethingBeautiful08 member
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    You know your family, but I would also recommend that you use the family channels to obtain the phone number of the host and then call yourself.  Honestly this is a matter between you and the host, best to avoid getting more people into it then needed.

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  • BarbLovesDaveBarbLovesDave member
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    ldukes9 said:
    Hmm, I personally haven't spoken to this cousin in years and don't really have a way of getting in touch, but my mom offered to call the family and ask so I'll probably take her up on that.  Thanks for the help!
    If you are old enough to be engaged, you are old enough to do your own phoning. Get the number from your mom, then call.

    "I'm not sure you know our happy news, but I am engaged to Joe Smith. I noticed my invitation was address only to me. Joe and I usually attend such events as a couple."

    Then listen to what she says, and be ready to politely decline if she doesn't include Joe.
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