$100 is not enough

[Deleted User] · July 2013

http://jezebel.com/worst-bride-ever-throws-facebook-fit-over-100-cash-wed-660712215

You know the drill. Couple attends wedding and gives $100 cash gift. Bride responds (via facebook) with this:

Hi Tanya, how are you? I just want to know is there any reason or dissatisfaction of Mike's and I wedding that both you and Phil gave 50$ each? In terms of the amount we got from you both was very unexpected as a result we were very much short on paying off the reception because just for the cocktail + reception alone the plate per person is 200$ (as per a normal wedding range with open bar is about) and Mike and I both have already paid for everything else including decor, photography, attire etc and didn't expect we had to cover that huge amount for reception as well. As I know you both live together and work, so I did not see any reason for that amount, when it comes to your wedding hopefully you'll know what I mean. I hope for the best as from what we receive is what we will give back. Anyways, good luck on everything.

tawillers · July 2013

I am always amazed at these. I truly had no idea people expected to be reimbursed for their receptions until I came to this board.

6fsn · July 2013

Blergh. If I need to "cover my plate" I want to choose what's on it.

Jessica41381 · July 2013

I posted this on fb a few days ago, it's completely ridiculous!!!! If you cant afford your reception you shouldn't have a reception. They need to be paid before the event happens so they are being greedy and probably took out loans because otherwise they wouldn't say they couldn't afford it. My fiancé and I have paid for everything ourselves and have what we can afford without the use of any loans or credit cards.. I hope her "friend" wrote back the nastiest of messages in response to hers. I wish her husband luck.

zsazsa-stl · July 2013

Groom Greedy

and

Bride Bitchy

request the honor of your presence

and a $250 or greater value gift payable in cash, cashier's check, or stock options

at the celebration and fundraising event for our marriage.

Please bring your own chair and a bag lunch.

Water will be provided.

[Deleted User] · July 2013

@zsazsa-stl

That should say tap water will be provided. Bottled water is available for purchase.

jennscott14 · July 2013

Wow, we would never expect any of our guests to pay for our reception. It's about a time of celebration and family and friends. We would just be happy and grateful that our guests could enjoy our wonderful day with us. We are going to pay for everything ouselves as we have over a year to save and we are having a small wedding.

Fran1985 · July 2013

Honestly, its stuff like this that makes me worried about having a casual reception! I hope people don't feel like they "have to cover their plate" because we are going to do pretty casual italian food at a lodge, and I would never want someone to give me 200 bucks and then feel like I was making a profit. But we don't care about gifts at all- I feel weird even about registering even though my BM are telling me I have to. I just want to have a fun, good, nice but casual party!

Jean0715 · July 2013

I dont understand why people think that they can have their guests pay for the reception. If you cant afford your wedding without your guests paying for it, then its time to cut back.

IMO A gift is nice, but a heartfelt card is whats important.

Jessica41381 · July 2013

boston2823 said:

Honestly, its stuff like this that makes me worried about having a casual reception! I hope people don't feel like they "have to cover their plate" because we are going to do pretty casual italian food at a lodge, and I would never want someone to give me 200 bucks and then feel like I was making a profit. But we don't care about gifts at all- I feel weird even about registering even though my BM are telling me I have to. I just want to have a fun, good, nice but casual party!

I actually felt weird even hated doing a registry. I'm not one who asks/requests gifts so doing one was challenging for me, if I had it my way I wouldn't of had one....

bballgirl8789 · July 2013

Wow that is disgusting! My H and I were grateful for what people gave us, we weren't "banking" on people covering their plates. Also we had a wedding that was affordable, nice and within our budget. I had a friend that told me that she expected people to cover their plates and I thought that was rude and ridiculous. At the time of that wedding, my H and I had just moved, started new jobs, I was working full time, but H was still working part time, waiting to get full time. We gave the couple $100, which was a lot for us to give at the time, but the girl was a very good friend. I feel that $100 gift is a generous gift for young couples to give, because many of the couples friends are just starting out like they are.

jackiebrim · July 2013

This is why you shouldn't plan a wedding you can't afford! FI and I could barely afford ours, but we paid as we went, we don't have any loans! We don't expect anyone to give cash gifts; in fact, we know some won't because they are in bad financial positions. We invited people to our wedding because we want to spend our day with them, not hoping to get more money! That is disgusting. I saw this on the Today Show and was shocked.

gpeeples · July 2013

I just don't understand, how was this person raised? I remember being a little kid, before my birthday parties, my mom would tell me to always pretend to like everything I got even if I didn't, and smile and thank everyone. 4-year-old me understood this, and it was never a problem. How do adults not understand?

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