MOH & Bridesmaid: The Day Of

Re: MOH & Bridesmaid: The Day Of

• AddieCake member

  

  July 2013

  No. The only reason you should have to pay for it is if you are requiring they have it done. Since you're not, you're good. Hooray!

  
  

  
  

  What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14

  

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• southernbelle0915 mod

  

  July 2013 edited July 2013

  No it's not bad etiquette.

  
  

  And absolutely. You're in the clear.

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• itzMS member

  

  July 2013

  I do think there is some gray area here.

  If you require them to use a specific salon and/or not-so-subtley "request" that they join you at a specific salon...you should pay as you're not really giving them much choice. (Not saying you're doing this, OP, just for anyone else who's lurking)

   

   

   

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• manateehugger member

  

  July 2013

  As long as you aren't requiring them to do anything and/or wear certain makeup/hairstyle, I think you're fine.

  I've had a bride send me a price menu of her stylist when I was a bridesmaid. She made it very clear that she didn't expect us to do anything professionally, but just wanted to let us know her stylist was available if we had wanted her services the morning-of. I think that's fine. I actually did end up using her lady for my hair.

  

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• smalfrie19 member

  

  July 2013

  I have told my BM's that I dont care, but if they do want to get their hair done,  I would be happy to schedule their appointment with mine .

  

  
  

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• southernbelle0915 mod

  

  July 2013

  itzMS said:

  I do think there is some gray area here.

  If you require them to use a specific salon and/or not-so-subtley "request" that they join you at a specific salon...you should pay as you're not really giving them much choice. (Not saying you're doing this, OP, just for anyone else who's lurking)

  This is a very good point. As long as it's a true "no pressure" situation, I think you're good.

  
  

  Also, BMs lurking - you should not expect this to be paid for unless the bride requires that you have specific services or styles. You can expect to wear your hair how you want to wear it, whether you decide to get it professionally done or do it yourself.

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• moniste member

  

  July 2013

  My wedding was in a different area from where I live, and my bridesmaids came in from different citites around the state.  A friend of mine owns her own salon and she volunteered to drive there and do my/our hair.  I didn't require my BMs to have her do their hair, but told them that she would be available if they wanted and I told them how much she charged.  They all ended up having her do their hair and everyone loved it.  And it prevented them from having to find a stylist on their own.  So long story short, it's completely acceptable in your case for them to pay for themselves. 

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• QueerFemme member

  

  July 2013

  You don't have to pay.    I told my girls that my Hair/MUA would be available if they wanted to use her and how much she was, to let me know so I could reserve the proper amount of time. But, they could do their hair and makeup however they wanted to. 

  If you want their hair a certain style, you should pay.

  

  Websites/blogs where our wedding has been featured:

  http://www.dapperq.com/2013/11/a-very-dapper-wedding/
  

  http://www.onabicyclebuiltfortwo.com/2013/10/wedding-christina-g.html
  

  http://4realequalityweddings.com/2014/05/16/g-christina/
  

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• ashleyep member

  

  July 2013 edited July 2013

  moniste said:

  My wedding was in a different area from where I live, and my bridesmaids came in from different citites around the state.  A friend of mine owns her own salon and she volunteered to drive there and do my/our hair.  I didn't require my BMs to have her do their hair, but told them that she would be available if they wanted and I told them how much she charged.  They all ended up having her do their hair and everyone loved it.  And it prevented them from having to find a stylist on their own.  So long story short, it's completely acceptable in your case for them to pay for themselves. 

  I'm a BM for an upcoming wedding and I told the bride that I'd love to get my hair done wherever she's doing hers. I'm staying in a hotel the night before and while I don't live too far from there, I thought it was easier to do the same place as her. If she offered makeup I would do that too.

  
  

  I'm also the type to just say tell me when, where, what to buy and how much to pay because I don't want to have to do any of that myself.

  

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• AJuliaNJ member

  

  July 2013

  I told everyone I had booked a make-up artist and hair stylist for myself and if they were interested to let me know by a certain date so they could plan to stay longer. I sent a price list for each along. It was completely optional, but everyone but one BM wanted it. I decided a few days before the wedding to pay for everyone's make-up including the BM that wasn't originally going to do it.

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• annathy03 member

  

  July 2013

  I'm glad @itzMS mentioned it has to be truly optional so BMs don't feel obligated to do it.  OP, sounds like you're in the clear.  I was a BM where the bride had her hair stylist coming to her condo for convenience, and told us if we wanted to use her we were welcome to.  It was fantastic to have the option, and I think all of us did since it was right there, but the bride would have been fine with us rocking a ponytail if that's what anyone wanted to do.  

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