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misslobita · July 2013

Mentioned to the fiancé the other day that I was thinking I may want to take a small break from bedroom activities shortly before our wedding, surprisingly he was disappointed. Anyone else try this or think about doing it and failed?

AJuliaNJ · July 2013

I didn't. I don't see the point in holding out just to hold out.

swimmy1988 · July 2013

My now husband and I ended up taking a break from bedroom activities a couple weeks before the wedding, but not on purpose. I had my time of the month, and then went to my hometown a couple days before the wedding while he stayed back home until the day before. It kind of sucked though, because bedroom activities relax me more.

But I guess it's up to you, if you feel like it's something you want to do. Personally I don't see the point to take away something so enjoyable before the wedding (.

RamonaFlowers · July 2013

I don't understand the logic behind it. You've already "done it" with him ... no amount of abstaining before the wedding is going to magically make you both virgins again on your wedding night. If anything, it's just going to make thing be incredibly quick and disappointing for you both the very next time you do "have relations"

misslobita · July 2013

RamonaFlowers said:

I don't understand the logic behind it. You've already "done it" with him ... no amount of abstaining before the wedding is going to magically make you both virgins again on your wedding night. If anything, it's just going to make thing be incredibly quick and disappointing for you both the very next time you do "have relations"

Haha he said the same thing. I'd just head of others doing this and mentioned to him, not with the intention of a 'born again virgin' thing.

Peaseblossom55 · July 2013

I don't understand the logic behind it but to each his own I guess.

Maggie0829 · July 2013

What Ramona said. I just don't see the point. It isn't like holding off for a few weeks before the wedding is really going to make the wedding night sex any better or any more special. I mean if you guys already have sex then there really isn't going to be any surprises on the wedding night.

NYCBruin · July 2013

Harry87 said:

We didn't even consider it. Couple reasons:

1. Premarital sex is funny in that it's still a no-no to some. We wanted to cram in as much heathen sex as humanly possible before it became lame-ol' approved sex.

2. We have done everything we could in every position in every place possible without the addition of toys so far. What mystery or magic were we going to suddenly find on that night?

3. If we take too long a break, the sex is short, or uncomfortable, or pressured, or just in some way or another not decent. Why in the heck would I want lousy sex that night? You have to keep running to stay in peak running shape, you have to keep ... you get my point.

I totally agree with the bolded. That's why I actually hope to get some morning of wedding sex in so we can have sex longer that night.

Viczaesar · July 2013

misslobita said:

Mentioned to the fiancé the other day that I was thinking I may want to take a small break from bedroom activities shortly before our wedding, surprisingly he was disappointed. Anyone else try this or think about doing it and failed?

That was surprising?

libby2483 · July 2013

Ditto Ramona. We didn't do this because I just didn't see the point.

AddieCake · July 2013

I don't see the point, either. My husband had been gone for work for almost 3 months before we got married, so we were forced into a break, but as soon as he got there the week of the wedding, you bet we hooked right up.

And I'm definitely glad we didn't do some, "Hey, we've gone this long. How about for fun we 'save ourselves' for the wedding night since it's this weekend" b/c I ended up starting my period the night before the wedding.

wittykitty14 · July 2013

StageManager14 said:

When I go awhile without sex, it is hard to get started, uncomfortable for the first few minutes, doesn't last as long because *I* don't have the stamina, and I'm cranky as hell. Personally, I don't need sex to be better or more special with H, it's pretty damn great every time now.

Yeah, this is me too. The longer we go without, the harder it is for me to start up again (usually). FI and I talked about abstaining before the wedding, but months before. We did our pre-cana at 6 months out, and felt really inspired to abstain.....but we quickly realized that we just wanted to keep having sex, which was fine. We abstained for a while when I was starting to learn NFP, but now we've been having sex like normal, within the guidelines of the NFP method we're using.

FI actually talked about this last night or the night before. I'm just finishing up my period, and then we're going to be away at his parents this weekend (so, no sex). Based on what we have planned for the upcoming week, we're probably going to be too exhausted to have sex. And then we get married Friday. There's a good chance that without even trying, sex just may not happen until the wedding. But it's nothing unusual for us. We decided not change our habits just because the wedding is close. If we want to have sex, we're gonna have it. The stress relief will do us some good. And if we don't feel like it, we just won't. NBD.

DaisyMaeMommy · July 2013

We're not doing it the night before the wedding, only because we're doing the whole "No seeing each other the day before the wedding" thingy. BUT... FI and I definitely couldn't go any longer than that!

Just like most PP have said, what's the point?

kmmssg · July 2013

It just seems like an awkward way to increase the stress leading up to the wedding and not really conducive to improving your relationship.

If you have a spiritual conflict and have decided that you should abstain from sex until you are married that is one thing, but to just up and say "No nookie for you til the wedding night, Buddy" serves no purpose.

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