Sorry so long! Ok so here's some background... I got married in October, 2011, had a big wedding in which all of my family and friends came to. Long story short, my ex completely changed literally the day after we got married. I found out from our pre-marital counselor, (who was also his psychologist and ended up counseling us after we were married) that he had a personality disorder and the stress of getting married triggered a change in him. He was mentally, emotionally, and physically abusive. At the same time I became very ill (completely unrelated but my situation only made it worse). Because of his mental illness which he did not disclose before we married we could have had an annulment but the day before we were to go to court he hired a lawyer and I had to deal with a year long divorce. We were married for about 5 months.
About 3 months later I met my now fiancé (most amazing man ever). Because of financial reasons, stress, and him being in school we have decided to elope early August, go on our honeymoon and then have an "after party"/reception of sorts with all of our family and friends to celebrate our marriage and for both families to meet. I would love for my family (aunts, uncles, cousins) to be there but I guess I feel sort of awkward because I got married just a few years ago and had this huge wedding and my marriage only lasted 5 months. I don't want anyone to think that we are having a reception to be gift grabby, if anyone asks I would tell them or have my mom tell them we would just appreciate their company. Is this ok to do? To get married just the two of us, have our honeymoon and then a reception? Its just something low-key in a state park nearby, we will have horderves, lots of cupcakes with interesting different flavors, tea, lemonade, and water.