Wedding E-invites

Kathom86 · July 2013

I'm wondering if it would be a wedding faux pas to send paper save the dates and e-invites for the actual invitations? The save the date they can put on their fridge or in their office as a reminder but could instantly accept the invitation online when it arrives in their inbox. I think this would help keep the RSVP's organized and reduce the amount of postage we have to buy. Would it be tacky though?

AddieCake · July 2013

I'm really not a fan of this for something like a wedding. To me, even if a wedding is casual, I feel the invitations should reflect a more formal party. I get e-vites for kid's birthday parties and casual get-togethers. I don't like lumping weddings in with those events.

manateehugger · July 2013

Kathom86 said:

I'm wondering if it would be a wedding faux pas to send paper save the dates and e-invites for the actual invitations? The save the date they can put on their fridge or in their office as a reminder but could instantly accept the invitation online when it arrives in their inbox. I think this would help keep the RSVP's organized and reduce the amount of postage we have to buy. Would it be tacky though?

Sorry, I think e-vites are super tacky for weddings. It is a huge life-event; you should send a physical invitation. I don't even like online RSVP's with a paper invitation. I'd way prefer to get an online save the date than an online invitation.

You can find very affordable invitations at Michaels, Hobby Lobby, and Vistaprint.com. Your invitations don't have to be the fanciest thing in the world, but they should be paper.

southernbelle0915 · July 2013

I'm a child of the digital age, but I still prefer a paper invitation. Older people probably also prefer paper, especially those who do not have the internet or email. Personal preference does not mean it's rude though.

No, I do not think it's rude. Tacky? Maybe...

If you're trying to save money, go to Michael's, use a 40% off coupon and print your own. Depending on the size of your wedding, you'll spend about $20 plus postage.

Kathom86 · July 2013

I appreciate your input. I had a feeling that it wouldn't go over well, which is why I wanted to ask a online community before embarrassing myself in front of my friends and family. I too am a child of the digital age and do like the idea of RSVPing on our wedding website. They can find out more information about the event and see our gift registries. I think that is better then putting it on the invite which I've seen before.

manateehugger · July 2013

Kathom86 said:

I appreciate your input. I had a feeling that it wouldn't go over well, which is why I wanted to ask a online community before embarrassing myself in front of my friends and family. I too am a child of the digital age and do like the idea of RSVPing on our wedding website. They can find out more information about the event and see our gift registries. I think that is better then putting it on the invite which I've seen before.

Yes, never send out registry information with a wedding invitation. Make sure your registries are in a relatively discrete spot on your website (aka not on the front page).

Don't use the The Knot's RSVP tool or website - they are notoriously glitchy.

libby2483 · July 2013

I am not a fan of e-vites unless there is a very good reason. For example, I have a friend who just got married and sent out e-vites. She and her H were living in Turkey (which has a very unreliable mail system), but they got married in America. They invited people from America, England (where the groom and his entire family are from), South Korea, and South America. In a case like this, e-vites made sense and I didn't side-eye it, especially since their wedding was very casual. However, in most cases, I think that e-vites are far too informal for weddings. I would recommend going the paper route!

RebeccaB88 · July 2013

I would consider doing electronic save the dates, and paper invitations. Those who don't use computers or email (they're definitely out there, especially older people) you can call with the date info or print something out on your home computer to mail them.

margaretskye · July 2013

Yeah, I'm going to agree with the PPs and say that wedding e-vites are kind of tacky. I also agree with RebeccaB88 that it would be better to do electronic save the dates and paper invitations if you really need to save on postage. That way you'll save some of the money, but your guests will get real invitations.

Jen4948 · July 2013

For save-the-dates, this might be okay, but I don't recommend it.

I definitely don't recommend it for a wedding of any type of formality.

And people just tend to ignore evites or not take them seriously-and surely that's not what you want for your wedding.

Also, some people just aren't tech-savvy. My BF's mother has no computer, so for her evites would be totally useless.

Use paper.

QueerFemme · July 2013

never, ever put registry information on your invitations. Put it on your website.

I am another person that thinks e-vites for weddings are tacky. I also think electronic rsvps for weddings aren't a good idea. Use a postcard or rsvp card and spring for the postage. I love technology. But think that a wedding should use old fashion postal mail.

aurianna · July 2013

You really don't even need to send Save the Dates. You can save postage by not sending those at all (I personally don't find a problem with electronic save the dates though, as long as you still spread it word of mouth to the VIPs that might not be as computer savvy).

musicalcanadianbride · July 2013

Not a fan of e-vites, but we did do RSVPs by phone and email, since half the guest list was from Mexico, where the postal service is even more unreliable than our Canadian one. Example: fiancé and I sent a Christmas card to his folks - mailed on Dec. 2nd, arrived two days before we visited them at the end of February. :-)

No to e-vites but yes to "green" RSVP options, in my opinion.

jcrmc · July 2013

While I am not a fan of e-vites, a friend of my sister and her husband are very very very eco-wise. They had a graphic designer/photographer put together a wicked website and slideshow, and people really liked it. Their entire wedding was *green* themed and it was pretty cool.

tiny speck · July 2013

The level of formality required for a wedding makes it necessary to send physical paper invitations. Electronic stuff just isn't formal enough, and while I can appreciate some people's desire to be more eco-friendly, I really think there are other ways of making the invitations greener (like using 100% recycled paper and not having inserts).

32daisies · July 2013

I liked what PP said about sending electronic save the dates, and paper invites. Here's a weird concern I had, though -- is there any worry that people will forward the e-mail save the date around? As a way of saying, "Look, Jane is getting married!", except that now it might be awkward if those people aren't going to be invited? Probably not.

Anyhow, to your original point, I'm a digital girl too -- I'm geeky to the extreme, love gadgets, am online constantly. And strangely, I will tell you, I ended up loving the traditional formality of our paper invites (not out yet, but ready to go!). There's something lovely and elegant about doing it the old-fashioned way. And we had ours printed through an online company and were not very expensive, but wonderful, so there are lots of options for DIY projects, too.

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