new to board and nervous

Re: new to board and nervous

• [Deleted User] member

  

  July 2013

  Congrats and Welcome! 

  Hopefully the 4~ months will be enough for the resort to work out all of the kinks. Personally, I'd probably just be a little more vigilant of all the details that were important to me and not blindly trust the location to get everything done. Do they have a wedding coordinator that is working with you? How much experience does that person have? If they are experienced I think that would reduce my worry.

  
  

  As far as folks putting deposits down, I think you can send out general reminders for due dates but ultimately you'll have to trust that your guests will be adults and get it taken care of. Since I didn't do an all inclusive resort, everyone just booked their own travel and we assumed that they would handle it. We didn't really have anyone say they were coming and then cancel because they didn't get it done. (my dad ended up not coming, but he never actually confirmed that he would so that doesn't really count I don't think - and no amount of me reminding him would have been enough to get him there either)

  
  

  
  

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• Julyet06 member

  

  July 2013 edited July 2013

  Welcome and Congratulations!!!

  
  

  I wouldn't be worried about any kinks in the resort.  Actually, since it'll be so fresh and new, I think the experience will be even more wonderful!  I ditto Sara's concerns though, make sure that your wedding coordinator is being responsive and that they will have an onsite coordinator as well to finalize details (unless you are not using the resort coordinator).

  
  

  As for your guests...I also gave more than a year's notice verbally to everyone, giving ample enough time for saving.  My so called friends said yes definitely at first, but luckily I took that with a grain of salt b/c none of them ended up coming...lots of invited guests didn't even send the RSVP back!  It came to a point that I stopped asking b/c it was one stress I didn't need, if I didn't hear anything, I just assumed the answer was no.

  
  

  Also, I had a travel agent through Beach Bum Vacation, WHO NO ONE CONTACTED until about 5 months before the wedding, and even then only TWO people contacted her.  That being said we had 30 guests come to our wedding in Jamaica, 26 of them didn't use my travel agent...It seems to be the norm that guests won't start looking into travel until about 4 to 6 months from the wedding date.  What we did was create a wedding event page on facebook (which was private) and posted updates there, like when my Beach Bum Missy advised us of increasing prices and/or rooms selling out quickly. 

  
  

  If I had focused on my guests, I would have been a wreck!  So, long story short, try not to stress about your guests.  Focus on ironing out the details for your wedding.  You've got one of the hard parts down (choosing the resort!) all you can do is send emails with your TAs info and reminders every so often (if you want).  

  
  

  Enjoy the process girl!!

  

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• Meg&Austin member

  

  July 2013

  Welcome and congrats!!!
  
  Such great advice above. You def do not need the extra stress of babysitting. You will just have to give the time needed for them to book and all the info they need! Great choice in punta cana we got married there in May. It is gorgeous there! Can't wait to hear more of your plans I will have to look up your resort!

  

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• daisiesandroses

  

  July 2013

  Thank you ladies. The coordinator is the coordinator from Niw Larimar which is another r esort in P. C. si she has experience. Thank goodness! I guess I will just have to stop stressing about my guests. Hopefully I will hear something from them soon.

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• saric83 member

  

  July 2013

  Ditto PP's on not worrying.  I just wanted to add that the majority of our 40 guests didn't book until three months out.  We did put an RSVP date about 90 days out, and I just checked in with the ones we hadn't heard from one way or the other to get an idea of where they were at. 

  Try not to bug people too much.  They might have tons of different reasons to wait until it gets closer.  I was invited to a DW while we were in the process of house-hunting (so we truly had no idea when we would find something, how much money we would have and when we would be closing), and I think the bride "gently reminded me" no less than 10 times prior to the RSVP date. 

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