Their family, not mine.
Hi Knotties,
So here's the problem. I have two bridesmaids, women who are more like sisters to me than my own sisters sometimes. I love them. But their families, not so much. In fact I hate their family, both of whom are very controlling, happen to think I'm the spawn of the devil and have attempted to end my relationships with both of their daughters in the past. Mostly because, while we practice the same religion, our ideals about the religion are very different. They have called me out my name: of the whore slut variety, attempted to harm me and threatened to do so and spread vicious nasty rumors about me. Needless to say, I don't want them anywhere near my big day. However I don't know how to tell my MOHs this without offending them. Do I have to invite their horrid families to keep them,in my wedding or must I drop my two best friends from my wedding for my own mental state?
Re: Their family, not mine.
Be straight forward about this. If your BMs know that your relationship with their mother is tense, just tell them that due to those incidents in the past, you don't feel comfortable to have their families around at your wedding day. If they are your friends, they are going to understand it.
By families, who do you mean? Like their husbands? Or parents/siblings? Husbands, yes, you need to invite. Their families parents, siblings, etc, no, there would be no need to invite them if they are not people you care for.
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Because of the small community we live in and their parents active involvement with their lives I don't know that they expected me to overlook the past transgression. Since I've posted this, one of my MOH's and I have discussed that her parents were absolutely not allow. The other knows her parents are not allowed but the claim for religious reasons that the won't let her come alone and want to send her sister - who I also have problems with, along. Because this friend is newly legal and still living in her parents home, there may be a problem. I want her apart of my wedding, but she may not be able to attend unsupervised.
If she needs assistance for medical purposes, I would address her invite to a person you'd feel okay attending - you mentioned her sister, who you don't seem to have AS big a problem with - but she should have an escort of some sort. Although I don't see why people who hate you so much would even want to come to your wedding.
I'm not aware of any religions that would prevent a bridesmaid from attending a wedding alone, so I can't speak to that.