A few weeks ago my fiance's ex father in law was murdered and his ex mother in law was seriously injured in the same attack. I know it was a huge shock we went as soon as we could down to where they were living - and spent about 5 days there. His kids and ex wife also lived in the same house and were there at the time of the attack. They are fine (physically) and are getting help emotionally through victims services etc.
This sounds stupid but my fiance has been talking to his ex a LOT since its happened and I'm having a really really hard time with it. I understand that something terrible has happened but .. their conversations veer into things that are NOT related to this in any way and that I find inappropriate. (They had a text conversation about sex ... not THEM having sex together but her and her new boyfriend's sex life vs ours..) it made me really uncomfortable.
I don't want to seem like a jealous bi*ch but at the same time .. I really don't want them talking more than necessary regarding things like how the kids are doing etc. Before this happened they barely spoke other than when he would call to talk to the kids or when we saw her when we picked them up etc. Now they are texting regularly, messaging on facebook and nearly daily phoning...
I've told him it makes me uncomfortable that they are talking so much but he brushed it off and said she just "really needs someone to be there for her" right now.. and I get that .. but isn't that in some respects her BOYFRIEND'S place and not her ex husbands?
What do I do?