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Gift for wedding coordinator?

I need some suggestions/opinions (obviously, or I wouldn't be posting here!)... 

My wedding coordinators (husband and wife team) have been absolutely amazing throughout this whole process.  They are being paid [very well, but fairly] for their work, but FI and I would like to thank them, as we feel they've done an incredible job.  We thought about tipping, but 20% will be quite a bit of money and we don't want to insult them with anything less. Plus, they've been working with us for almost a year, as opposed to other vendors who you only speak to a few times and 95% of their work is completed at the wedding. Would it be appropriate to get them a gift? If so, any suggestions? 

Or are we being silly because paying them should be enough of a thank you?

Thanks for your opinions!
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Re: Gift for wedding coordinator?

  • itzMSitzMS member
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    I need some suggestions/opinions (obviously, or I wouldn't be posting here!)... 

    My wedding coordinators (husband and wife team) have been absolutely amazing throughout this whole process.  They are being paid [very well, but fairly] for their work, but FI and I would like to thank them, as we feel they've done an incredible job.  We thought about tipping, but 20% will be quite a bit of money and we don't want to insult them with anything less. Plus, they've been working with us for almost a year, as opposed to other vendors who you only speak to a few times and 95% of their work is completed at the wedding. Would it be appropriate to get them a gift? If so, any suggestions? 

    Or are we being silly because paying them should be enough of a thank you?

    Thanks for your opinions!

    Paying them is enough reward. After all...it is THEIR JOB to cater to you and your every need as stipulated in your contract. You may certainly always tip, but I believe a physical gift is inappropriate.

    Why not write glowing reviews and recommendation letters?

    You could also work with them to get your wedding published on local wedding blogs or magazines so that their business receives additional "free" advertisement.

  • I agree. Give a tip amount you can afford, write them a lovely thank you note that they can throw up on their website, and give postitive reviews everywhere (good reviews are gold to wedding industry people).

     

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  • It is their job to do the work, so don't feel like they're going above and beyond. If you feel that what you can afford to tip them would be insufficient, I think that a nice bottle of wine would be ok if you want to get them something physical.

    I second the glowing reviews (do every site you can) and offer to be a reference. Can you offer up any photos (depending on contract with photographer) for them to use on their website/brochure?
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  • itzMS said:
    I need some suggestions/opinions (obviously, or I wouldn't be posting here!)... 

    My wedding coordinators (husband and wife team) have been absolutely amazing throughout this whole process.  They are being paid [very well, but fairly] for their work, but FI and I would like to thank them, as we feel they've done an incredible job.  We thought about tipping, but 20% will be quite a bit of money and we don't want to insult them with anything less. Plus, they've been working with us for almost a year, as opposed to other vendors who you only speak to a few times and 95% of their work is completed at the wedding. Would it be appropriate to get them a gift? If so, any suggestions? 

    Or are we being silly because paying them should be enough of a thank you?

    Thanks for your opinions!

    Paying them is enough reward. After all...it is THEIR JOB to cater to you and your every need as stipulated in your contract. You may certainly always tip, but I believe a physical gift is inappropriate.

    Why not write glowing reviews and recommendation letters?

    You could also work with them to get your wedding published on local wedding blogs or magazines so that their business receives additional "free" advertisement.

    Thanks for the advice and confirming my original instinct. It seems like everyone gets a tip these days, so I want to be sure I do the right thing.  I will most definitely give them a stellar review and have already referred other brides to them. I am also planning on writing a heartfelt thank you note, which I think is often better than a gift. 

    The bolded is a great idea; thank you!
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  • Can you offer up any photos (depending on contract with photographer) for them to use on their website/brochure?
    Yes, I have already asked my photographer to make sure she gets good pictures of the reception space (especially decor and floral), so I can send it to the vendors, who can use them if they would like. I would, of course, ask them to leave her watermark on the pictures (or at least cite them) so she gets credit as well. 
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  • I'm planning on baking my wedding planner a pie. This is something I love to do and I believe she will enjoy (I know she has a sweet tooth). Maybe you could do something similar?
  • Warm thank-you notes and glowing testimonials are IMO the best way to thank service providers over and above paying them and including good tips if that's appropriate for the services they provided.  If you're willing to share photos of your wedding that they can use to publicize their business, that's great too.
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