do bridesmaids and groomsmaids wear the same dress??

Re: do bridesmaids and groomsmaids wear the same dress??

• itzMS member

  

  July 2013

  emilie127 said:

  i have 2 bridesmaids and 3 bridesmen, and he has 3 groomsmaids. i think it would be easier to just get all the girls the same dresses, like the guys are all havin the same suits. its not very formal, were havin a handfastin out in the woods with an indoor reception, and its around 100 ppl. would you have them wear the same or mix it up??

  Technically speaking, your FI should choose the attire for his own attendants (male or female) and vice versa.

  It doesn't matter in the slightest if the dresses match or not.
  

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• AddieCake member

  

  July 2013

  We asked our groomsmaid what she wanted to wear. She opted for a tan skirt suit to match my husband. 

  
  

  
  

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• Dreamergirl8812 member

  

  July 2013

  Since your FI probably doesn't want to scour the internet for hours picking out dresses, I would get together with your girls and pick a dress, then see if your FI likes them then he can ask his girls. If they don't like it then they will already have an idea of what you 2 are looking for and then they can pick their dresses.
  
  Totally doesn't matter if they match but it may be simpler and less stressful this way.
  

  
  
  
  

  
  
  
  
  

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• Bubbles2014 member

  

  July 2013

  They don't have to match. FI is going to tell his groomswoman that she can either wear a bridesmaids dress, or a knee length black dress.
  

  
  

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• ashleyep member

  

  July 2013

  I've seen a few pictures where the groomsmaids wore a dress in the same color as the guys tuxes or suits. You could add a belt in a color that matches their ties. Don't force the groomsmaids into a skirt suit just so they wear a suit - but if that's what they're comfortable wearing, go for it. Do whatever you want.

  

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• AJuliaNJ member

  

  July 2013

  I'd go one of 2 ways:

  
  

  1. Invite all the girls in the WP to shop together for the same dress (or same color dress if you don't want matching).

  2. Have the groomswomen wear black to match the tuxes (or whatever color the tuxes are).

  
  

  FI can ask them what they prefer.

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• AJuliaNJ member

  

  July 2013

  fyrefly76 said:

  We were originally told we could wear a tux like the guys, the bridesmaid dress in navy like the girls, or the bridesmaid dress in black like the tuxes.  But really, the groom didn't care at all.  And the bride loved what we ended up choosing.
  

  That's a great idea! I know I wouldn't want to have to wear a tux to a wedding, but some ladies might want to match the rest of the groom's side. Having a choice is the perfect solution.

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• AJuliaNJ member

  

  July 2013

  @fyrefly76, how does a dress look like a tux? It is just the same colors? 

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• Jen4948 member

  

  July 2013

  I don't think they have to match.  You might ask your FI if he has any preferences, but if not, you can invite his groomsmaids to join you in dress selections if you want.
  

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• flyersgirl1977 member

  

  July 2013

  Maybe if you have more than one color in your scheme you can have the girls side wear one and the guys side the other. My bm's are wearing cocoa and my daughter (Maiden of Honor) is wearing Guava so one side can wear cocoa and the other the guava for example. : )

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• jenfromjersey member

  

  July 2013

  We have one groomswoman who will be wearing the same dress as the bridesmaids, but in black.  She is going to have a wrist corsage instead of a bouquet as well.

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