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Potentially tricky parent situation

lyntopherlyntopher member
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Who gets listed in the program?

Situation one: My parents are divorced and neither is remarried (nor ever intends to again as far as I know), but each has a long-time SO, neither of whom is referred to as a step-parent --- by themselves, my parents or any of my siblings. It would seem odd to list either of their SOs in the program under "Parents of the Bride" but I don't want to slight anyone either. Is it okay to just list my mother and father (two lines, no "and" and they have different last names), or do I list with some variation of "escorted by"? If so, please feel free to offer wording suggestions.

Situation two: Do you list a parent by name who has passed away or just acknowledge that person in the "in memory of" type section?

We will ask our respective parents for their preferences, but I'd really like some input on what might work before I open those conversations.
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    Skip the programs and your problem is solved. 


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  • itzMSitzMS member
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    Don't list deceased people under "Parents of the Bride/Groom".

    I don't remember our parents being listed in our programs at all (our church made them)...you aren't required to list them or have programs.

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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    If you have a program, you can list deceased parents in two ways:

    1) You can list them with an asterisk after their names and then "In Loving Memory" or some appropriate caption at the bottom

    2) Leave them off the list of participants but give them a tribute on another page
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  • lyntopherlyntopher member
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    Thanks so much for the suggestions! I would skip programs, but the church strongly encourages/requires them. These definitely give us some options though.
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  • Teddy917Teddy917 member
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    Just my two cents. I hate the "escorted by" wording. It makes it sound like the woman is a dog needing to be walked. But that's just my opinion.
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