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Wedding Invitations & Paper

Help, please! Invitation Etiquette

Hi!  My fiance and I are planning a VERY small wedding for immediate family only.  Immediately after the wedding we will have a reception only involving those who attended the wedding.  A month later, however, we plan to have a HUGE party in honor of our marriage and invite all of our extended family and friends.  How should we go about sending invitations?  Should we send an announcement prior to the wedding that includes an invitation to the "after party"?  Also, would it be appropriate to have a bridal shower or no?

Re: Help, please! Invitation Etiquette

  • JMalettasJMalettas member
    500 Comments 100 Love Its Second Anniversary First Answer
    edited July 2013
    Ditto, especially because you're having a smaller reception after the ceremony! The second party can't be considered a second reception, as a reception is generally thanking your guests for coming to your wedding. Although, I do understand you did not write 'huge wedding reception', you wrote "huge party." The invitations should definitely be separate. If one of the girls from your wedding party, or family, (really whoever), is throwing your bridal shower, you should definitely 'only' invite those that are also invited to your wedding, as mentioned above. Otherwise, it'll definitely come off rude, and as a gift grab! You will have some offended woman for sure, which of course you don't want! What I would probably do in your situation, is send out separate invites for your second party, and have it separate from your wedding all together, but just to celebrate your new marriage! Agreeing with CMGr, no dress, no cake etc. This would come off as rude, if these guests weren't even invited to your wedding. Just a super awesome get-together with family & friends to party & have a great time! :)

     *J
  • Thank you both so much for replying.  I'm sorry for my mistake in reposting, this was my first attempt at being a part of the community section of the site.  

    I think I may include the invitation to the party in a wedding announcement post-ceremony.  I do not intend on wearing my dress or re-doing any other wedding traditions, but rather have the party more akin to a house-warming one.  

    You have both been so helpful!  Thank you again!  ...and best of wishes on your upcoming marriages (or your continuing ones)!
  • Okay, I didn't think about that.  Just house-warming party invites afterwords it is, then!
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