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Several guests - one household

mystakillamystakilla member
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Some of our guests are living in the same household...example - I have one home that is a mother, father and five children, each of the children with a guest.  Technically 12 people in the same house.  We are having a buffet, so no problem there but, is it ok to send one invitation to the "XX" family and then let them ask if that means a guest for each child?? (mind you, the children are a 16 and over)...or do we really need to consider each child in the household as their own invite (X + guest) and send multiple invites to the same house?  Suggestions??  THANKS!!!

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  • banana468banana468 member
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    Nope.   Anyone over 18 gets his/her own invitation and their SOs or 'and guest' goes on each envelope.

    Yes, this may mean many invitations for one home but it's the correct and appropriate thing to do. 
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  • JoanE2012JoanE2012 member
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    mystakilla said:

    Some of our guests are living in the same household...example - I have one home that is a mother, father and five children, each of the children with a guest.  Technically 12 people in the same house.  We are having a buffet, so no problem there but, is it ok to send one invitation to the "XX" family and then let them ask if that means a guest for each child?? (mind you, the children are a 16 and over)...or do we really need to consider each child in the household as their own invite (X + guest) and send multiple invites to the same house?  Suggestions??  THANKS!!!

    Everyone 18 and over must get their own invite.  Being that the youngest is 16, I'd probably extend that rule to all of them.  The teenagers at our wedding really enjoyed getting their own invite.
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  • HisGirlFriday13HisGirlFriday13 member
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    Some people say dictates that everyone over 18 gets his or her own invite. Miss Manners allows issuing one invitation per household. As long as the inner envelope is addressed correctly, you're good to go. 

    The inner envelope would be:

    Mr. and Mrs. Hisfirst Hislast
    Oldest child and guest
    Next oldest child and guest
    etc. 
    etc.
    etc.

    (Use the guests' names if you know them).

    I'll get flamed for this, I know I will, but I'm not doing TK version of mailing six invitations to one address. The people still living at home, or multiple people who are all invited who all live in the same house, are all going on one invite. I did that for the STDates, and people appreciated it. (Also, I figured one house with parents and three adult children did not need FOUR of our STDate postcards). 

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  • banana468banana468 member
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    I don't know that Miss Manners supports only one invitation to a home. By doing that you've also opened the door for only one couple to see the invitation.

    My brother is 30 and lives with my parents. It would be highly insulting to put him on the same invitation as my mother and father.
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    Ditto Banana. My husband's brother is 30-something and lives with their mother. I would never dream of just including him on his mother's invitation. He got his owns STD as well and also his own Christmas card. 


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  • mystakillamystakilla member
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    I would like to say I agree w/ "His Girl Friday"  :)  I probably will be considering doing just what you are doing...one STD per house and likely one invite - most of the "adult" children are in their early twentys and though they might like their own invitation, they will probably not be getting one!  I would hope that the parents in that household would advise their children of the invite and would be taking the headcount with which they will respond to the RSVP.  I will wait for more responses but I like this idea.  THANKS!
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  • banana468banana468 member
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    mystakilla said:

    I would like to say I agree w/ "His Girl Friday"  :)  I probably will be considering doing just what you are doing...one STD per house and likely one invite - most of the "adult" children are in their early twentys and though they might like their own invitation, they will probably not be getting one!  I would hope that the parents in that household would advise their children of the invite and would be taking the headcount with which they will respond to the RSVP.  I will wait for more responses but I like this idea.  THANKS!

    You can do this but it's not correct.
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  • MyNameIsNotMyNameIsNot member
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    mystakilla said:
    I would like to say I agree w/ "His Girl Friday"  :)  I probably will be considering doing just what you are doing...one STD per house and likely one invite - most of the "adult" children are in their early twentys and though they might like their own invitation, they will probably not be getting one!  I would hope that the parents in that household would advise their children of the invite and would be taking the headcount with which they will respond to the RSVP.  I will wait for more responses but I like this idea.  THANKS!
    If you really don't care about how they feel, why are you inviting them anyway?

    If you don't mind insulting them, they don't belong on your guest list.  
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  • BMoreBride6BMoreBride6 member
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    AddieL73 said:
    Ditto Banana. My husband's brother is 30-something and lives with their mother. I would never dream of just including him on his mother's invitation. He got his owns STD as well and also his own Christmas card. 


    I know its time for bed when I read that as an entirely different meaning and did a total double take
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