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Shower Invite Dilemma - WWYD (Didn't want to threadjack)

schellzinatorschellzinator member
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I have a shower invite dilemma as well.  I don't know when my shower is - but I do not that it is a shower/bachelorette combined weekend about three hours from where FI & I live (and everyone invited to the wedding on FI's side).

WWYD in these situations:
  • FI asked that I invite a few of his late mom's friends to the shower (godmother and another family friend). I am hesitant because I don't want to look gift grabby...  They definitely wouldn't be invited to the bachelorette party.
  • FI's sister - who I am friendly with (talk to her more than he does) and then a few of his girlfriends - who I'm also friendly with...But not friendly enough to want to have them at my bachelorette. If they are invited - and come to the shower - I feel rude not inviting them to the bachelorette (same night) since they drove three hours to get there.
Thoughts?
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Re: Shower Invite Dilemma - WWYD (Didn't want to threadjack)

  • SewInLoveWithDMBSewInLoveWithDMB member
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    I think the confusing aspect is that they both are on the same day.  I agree that some of those people should be included to the shower, but not necessarily the bachelorette party.

    For his late mother's friends, I would invite them to the shower.  They can always decline and an invitation does not mean they need to get you a gift.

    As for his sister and friends, I would invite them to both.  If you are not as close as you say, they will probably either decline the 2nd party (bachelorette) or just take on a "the more the merrier" type of attitude. There is no reason to not include them if other people in their age group are included.  
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  • 09McSteph0309McSteph03 member
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    a second agreement w/ *hearts*DMB
    S'mores. Just S'mores please.
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  • schellzinatorschellzinator member
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    Thanks ladies!!!
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  • jenphotochickjenphotochick member
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    ooph yeah I haven't been asked for names addresses yet/ but i know mine are the same day and I was thinking wow thats a long day for people that may be invited to both lol. 
    image 165 Asked to join at our big day.
    image 7 Are coming; cameras in hand ready to party!
    image 5 Are missing out on the fun.
    image 153 Haven't found the mail box back to us.




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  • schellzinatorschellzinator member
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    @jenphotochick - those were my thoughts exactly! But one of my bridesmaids lives in Florida and she wanted to be a part of both and I didn't want her to have to pay for THREE plane tickets (shower, bachelorette and wedding).  So - we will make the best of it :) I've been to one where they were all in the same day and it actually turned out quite nice - because it gave a few hours of downtime to catch up and relax.  Another benefit that I saw was it ended earlier (I'm normally in bed by 11 on a Friday/Saturday - unless I HAVE to stay up).
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  • jenphotochickjenphotochick member
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    Oh that would be a nice benefit midnight is past my bedtime lol!
    image 165 Asked to join at our big day.
    image 7 Are coming; cameras in hand ready to party!
    image 5 Are missing out on the fun.
    image 153 Haven't found the mail box back to us.




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