Gift card shower

Re: Gift card shower

• kmmssg mod

  

  July 2013

  Yes, it is.  If you accept the shower, you accept the cost of getting your gifts home.  My DD lives in Utah and came back to MI for her shower and her wedding.  She was perfectly aware that it was her problem to get the gifts back home.  Her (then) FI came during the last hour of the shower for the opening of the gifts and then they both headed to Kinkos/FedEx to ship gifts home.

  
  

  If you accept the shower, you accept the responsibility of shipping the gifts home.  And it didn't cost DD hundreds of dollars.

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• AddieCake member

  

  July 2013

  Would you like to sit around watching someone open a pile of cards?

  
  

  
  

  What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14

  

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• calliopeia2013 member

  

  July 2013

  Soon2bCrumbliss said:

  My fiancé and I are in Florida but are moving 3,000 miles away after the wedding/honeymoon. If people get us gifts we will have to pay the cost of shipping which will become outrageously expensive. Is it bad to have a gift card shower in this case? After all, gift cards are much easier to carry along a 3,000 mile journey. I just don't want to sound greedy to my guests but I also don't want to spend hundreds on shipping.

  Yep, still bad etiquette- there's never a situation where a cash/gift card shower won't end making you look greedy.  Your choices are declining the shower or eating the cost of shipping.  Or you could have a non gift giving shower-like event, like a bridal bruch, luncheon, or tea.
  

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• aurianna member

  

  July 2013

  Soon2bCrumbliss said:

  My fiancé and I are in Florida but are moving 3,000 miles away after the wedding/honeymoon. If people get us gifts we will have to pay the cost of shipping which will become outrageously expensive. Is it bad to have a gift card shower in this case? After all, gift cards are much easier to carry along a 3,000 mile journey. I just don't want to sound greedy to my guests but I also don't want to spend hundreds on shipping.

  Is this something the person hosting your shower actually wants to do? If so, tell her you'd prefer a traditional shower. If she insists, politely decline the shower outright. This is akin to asking your guests to bring you cash. It's tacky.
  If this was just an idea you had, do not mention it to the host. Do not mention it to anyone.
  If no one has offered to throw you a shower yet and this is just hypothetical, then don't even worry about it yet until you know for sure anyone is even going to offer a shower, what kind it is, and where it is.
  

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• RookieBridesmaid

  

  July 2013 edited July 2013

  Could you register somewhere with a liberal return policy -- like Bed, Bath & Beyond -- and return whatever you can at the store before heading off to your new home, then re-buy the presents with the store credit later? You could then ship everything that wasn't purchased off the registry, which would probably only be a few things.

  
  

  Just throwing the suggesting out there, as I had a good friend do this for her baby shower. She wasn't going to pay to have strollers/pack and plays/ carseats shipped across the country, so she returned all the big gifts the day after the shower and used the store credit to re-buy it at home.
  

  
  

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• Dreamergirl8812 member

  

  July 2013

  Just don't register anywhere. If someone asks the host what you want, she can explain that physical gifts would be a burden to you unless the guest had it shipped to your destination (assuming you already know someone there who could store some stuff for you).
  
  But returning people's gifts is tacky as shit to me. Even if you then buy an exact replica. That just seems tacky as shit.
  

  
  
  
  

  
  
  
  
  

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