Ok... It's long... Sorry...
I've posted before about by BM that you gals helped me nickname AP (aka attention prostitute). I'm so mad I'm shaking. (Part of it is cause I'm PMSing in a major way, but mostly because she is attacking other people that are only trying to make everyone happy). Outside of wedding life AP has gotten meaner and meaner, and is trying to convince everyone that she is the victim in every situation, but I have tried to ignore that drama for the most part. It's kind of like not feeding the trolls on TK. Don't feed the drama queens...
Then this morning happened. I get a text from her asking if I'd spoken to MOH at 7am. I hear from my MOH at a more reasonable hour (9am) and find out that AP can't make the shower. I was fine with that. Then I reply to AP that I had spoken to MOH, and that all was settled. I was even nice about it and said "sorry you can't make it". Then she proceeded to try and blame all of it on MOH's lack of communication. Which couldn't have been farther from the truth. MOH picked the date/time of the evening on Sept 4 because it worked for all of us (originally) and that was what worked for the person who's helping her host. Then we find out that AP decided to change the dates of her visit to her mother's home from August 3rd-Sept 3rd to August 13- Sept 10th. She changed the dates last night. MOH had already started getting invites together, and coordinating all the stuff she needed to coordinate. So apparently AP wanted us to move the shower to Sept 11. Three days before the wedding. I'm dead serious.
She then proceeded to complain about how MOH never tells her anything and that it's all not fair and what not. That's what set me off. I finally said "If there is something you need to know about the wedding, ask me. I'm pretty sure I might now the answers, seeing as it's FI and I getting married". Then she whined about the not getting a shower. I simply reiterated that if she needed something, she can ask me. Informed her of the planned mani/pedi the day before the wedding and that it would cost her $40 to get hair/makeup. If she had questions, she could ask me, and then I ended the conversation.
I am so tired of dealing AP attacking my MOH simply because she wants the attention and wants to play the victim. I actually hope she doesn't pick up her dress on time, and that she stays in Oregon until after my wedding. Our friendship is over because of the way she treats other people. I don't know where the friend I once had has gone, but this person she has morphed into isn't one I want in my life. Only reason I haven't put the nail in the coffin that was our friendship and told her not to show up is that she did order the dress. I've already had more than one person tell me that if AP tries to steal anyone's thunder at the wedding, that she will be spoken to. I know that by venting, I probably sound like the Bridezilla I am trying hard so hard not to be, but I'm also sick of being this girl's doormat and watching her do it to other people.
She has now gone onto facebook to vent about how annoyed she is. How does she think the rest of us feel? She constantly wants peoples lives to revolve around her. I've been flexible. More than flexible. I don't require anyone to be anywhere and haven't asked her to do anything, except buy a dress and show up. I don't care what shoes they wear, what their hair looks like or anything else. But is it too much to ask that she not attack MOH, Myself and that she own up to her own issues in things?