Bride and Groom Surprise Dance

Pumpkingal82 · July 2013

My fiance and I are thinking of doing a surprise dance for all of our guests at our reception. We will dance to most of our "first dance" song, and then towards the end, the DJ will scratch the music and we will go into a choreographed dance. My question for you all is has anyone done this before? If so, how did you learn one? Did you take dance lessons or create moves yourself? I would like to learn or create something on my own, rather than pay for a class or a choreographer. Any advise is greatly appreciated!

P.S. Please do not comment and say that this is a bad idea or not to do it, etc...that is not what I am asking about. I simply want advice on if other people have done this before and if it worked well for them.

Thanks!!

NOLAbridealmost · July 2013

I have not done it. I have not seen in done in real life. When I see it done on Youtube or whatever I always get that awkward feeling where I am embarrassed for the couple.

NYCBruin · July 2013

scribe95 said:

It seems everyone does this nowadays and therefore it is less special.

I agree. I think it would be cool if the couple were both dancers (professional), but otherwise it's just awkward.

OP-if you want, take dance lessons. You and FI can learn some fun moves and incorporate them into your first dance, but I would avoid the whole choreographed dance.

zitiqueen · July 2013

Pumpkingal82 said:

My fiance and I are thinking of doing a surprise dance for all of our guests at our reception. We will dance to most of our "first dance" song, and then towards the end, the DJ will scratch the music and we will go into a choreographed dance. My question for you all is has anyone done this before? If so, how did you learn one? Did you take dance lessons or create moves yourself? I would like to learn or create something on my own, rather than pay for a class or a choreographer. Any advise is greatly appreciated!

P.S. Please do not comment and say that this is a bad idea or not to do it, etc...that is not what I am asking about. I simply want advice on if other people have done this before and if it worked well for them.

Thanks!!

My SIL and her H did a swing dance (they got married when that was all the rage), and the DJ ended up playing swing music about every fourth song.

AddieCake · July 2013

Ditto NOLA. I always feel so embarrassed for the couples I see doing this on TV or on YouTube.

MyNameIsNot · July 2013

Google "cheesy wedding dance" for videos. There are a ton of couples embarrassing themselves with this stuff on youtube.

[Deleted User] · July 2013

Yeah, I agree that if you want to do this, I'd learn some ballroom stuff and incorporate it into your first dance. Not the other stuff.

HOWEVER, I worked a wedding once where the bride and groom did a choreographed ballroom-type dance for their first dance. It was uncomfortable. I like to think of the first dance as sweet and unplanned. Their dance felt very cold and there was nothing romantic about it.

Dreamergirl8812 · July 2013

AW.

ETA: Ok, I wasn't very helpful. So I'll give it a shot. OP there's a good chance people would roll their eyes at your choreographed dance. But a good compromise would be what PPs have suggested: learn ballroom or something. Not only would it be impressive, but the dance classes themselves would be something you and your FI could do together.

Choreography? No. Just no.

monkeysip · July 2013

Yeah, we didn't choreograph an elaborate first dance, but we did take a few dance lessons and roughly planned out what we'd do ("We'll rumba during the verse, tango for the bridge, etc."), but all really simple stuff. Not crazy stuff because we're not professional dancers, and I didn't want an embarrassing moment on the dance floor.

Of course, all our plans went to crap. We entered too late to our song (no one gave us the signal to come in when he started the song) and then our DJ cut our song off WAY too early, and we only got to dance for like 40 seconds. It was a bummer, but not the end of the world.

ShesSoCold · July 2013

Take into account that the dance floor will be a bit slippery...because all of your guests will be vomiting on it due to the being one of the lamest and cheesiest things one can do at their wedding.

QueerFemme · July 2013

Another vote not to do this. It rarely turns out well, and even when it does, it still looks ridiculous. Your guests will ohhhhhh and ahhhh over you, because that's what they are supposed to do. But, everyone will be rolling their eyes. And sooo many people do it now, it's not even a little big original or unexpected.

Take a dance class, dance salsa or ballroom, waltz, whatever.

NOLAbridealmost · July 2013

I desperately need to know how to add gif files to a thread.

Ross and Monica's "Routine" comes to mind in so many ways....

Angusaur · July 2013

AddieCake · July 2013

@NOLAbridealmost

Find the gif you want. Right click it and choose "copy image URL." Then click the little picture icon above this text box and paste the URL there and click submit.

Dreamergirl8812 · July 2013

What you see:

What they see:

manateehugger · July 2013

Another vote for not doing this.

What about taking some dance lessons to learn the basic steps to your first dance song? I love when the couple actually knows some basic movements. If you don't want to pay for lessons, there are lots of good guides on YouTube. Your local public library also probably has a few dance lesson videos.

Much more exciting and refreshing than a bizarre choreographed dance. I also love watching those dances more than watching a couple rock back and forth for 3 minutes.

Jen4948 · July 2013

Still another vote for not doing this. How do you want your guests to react besides surprised? Awed? Thrilled? Choreographed "surprise" dances by the couple at their wedding just don't evoke those reactions-the reactions they do tend to evoke are I'm sure not what you're looking for-the couple tend to be seen as show-offs stroking their own egos while using the guests as a captive audience.

I'm sorry if that's not what you want to hear, but you also don't have the right to demand how anyone answers your question in an Internet forum.

NOLAbridealmost · July 2013

AddieL73 said:

@NOLAbridealmost

Find the gif you want. Right click it and choose "copy image URL." Then click the little picture icon above this text box and paste the URL there and click submit.

You are awesome. What do I do in lieu of right-clicking on a Macbook?

NOLAbridealmost · July 2013

@Angusaur, I am officially onboard your bandwagon.

[Deleted User] · July 2013

@NOLAbridealmost you hold control then click.

NOLAbridealmost · July 2013

SUCCESS!!! Thanks, Addie and LMC!

Oh, and fair warning, I am going to be giffing all up in this biotch from now on!

AddieCake · July 2013

NOLAbridealmost said:

Oh, and fair warning, I am going to be giffing all up in this biotch from now on!

We look forward to it!

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