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Wedding Woes

wedding stress turning to just wanting to elope

im so confused on what to do! my FI and i have talked about wanting to get married at his grandparents lake house (2 hrs from where most our family lives). EVERYONE keeps telling us its our wedding, our special day and should have it where ever we want but every time where we want to have it gets brought up both families give us a list of reasons why we shouldnt and how much easier it would be. how it would be cheaper for everyone, more convenient for everyone pretty much just about what everyone else would prefer. YES it would be more convenient if we did it close to "home" but its what we have talked about. the stress of this has seriously taken all joy and happiness out of this experience, ive come to the point where i just dont care anymore. were suppose to get married this Oct. 12. and i still have yet to get invitations or anything, (have no motivation) my FI is pretty supportive and just wants me to be happy

i keep thinkin to just put it off, like that would solve the problems, but we are so close im not sure if we could pull it off anywhere. im so lost. i probably sound like a bridezilla brat haha but i just always imagined it to be a time to celebrate....

Re: wedding stress turning to just wanting to elope

  • Stop talking to anyone else but your FI about what you want.
  • I can't believe people think it's such a big deal to drive 2 hours to a wedding. 


    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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  • AddieL73 said:
    I can't believe people think it's such a big deal to drive 2 hours to a wedding. 


    maybe it's not driving 2 hours to the wedding, but driving the 2 hours home after a long day that's the problem. 

    or additional costs
    - paying to board pets/pet sitting, possibly for the full weekend
    - paying for a hotel room
    - gas/tolls

    OP, what it comes down to is that you're paying, so you and your FI get full say. you can chose to ignore the complaints, but also realize that you may need to deal with the fact that the distance means that people will not attend. 
  • thank you for all your input. we decided to push the wedding to spring of 2014 to plan a boise wedding. as much as i would have loved to be a Oct bride this year, it just wasnt in the cards. it gives us more time to plan and we plan on sticking to what we want!  happy planning everyone! 
  • We faced the same issues - first family would go to Vegas, then they changed their mind. I didn't want a big wedding, but that seemed like the only way we were going to be able to do it here in our hometown.

    Finally, DF and I had had it with friends, etc input about what we were doing. We only told one person, and we eloped this past Saturday. It was perfect, we got up, did a few things, got our clothes pressed and off we went. Friday night we worked together to hand tie roses for my bouqet. It was a very peaceful and calm day, which is what we both wanted. And everyone was happy when we shared the news. Except for those who bitched about everything - they are taking it personally that they were left out. Um, hello - everyone was left out!! LOL

     

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