NER should a groom have a say over bridesmaids dresses?

AlexisA01 · July 2013

Just watching SYTTD Bridesmaids and the groom wanted to have a say over what ever the bride was selecting for the bridal party. Especially with picking out dresses with the BP.

elizabetheleven · July 2013

When it comes to bridesmaids dresses I think the bridesmaids should have the say seeing as they're the ones wearing em.

Both the bride and groom should have equal stock in wedding decisions IMO. It's his wedding too!

blueobsidian · July 2013

If he wants a say, sure. I do think that the bridesmaids should have the final say, but I don't see why the groom's opinion shouldn't matter. Many brides have an idea of what they want the bridal party attire to look like. Why is a groom having an opinion different?

NYCBruin · July 2013

I don't really feel strongly on this one.

On the one hand, they are the BRIDE's attendants so she should have final say. I would expect that the groom has final say over what his groomsmen wear, too.

On the other hand, I couldn't imagine not "letting" FI have at least a minimal say in what my BMs will wear. It's our wedding and we both want our attendants to coordinate to some extent. We also haven't picked out anything yet and it's possible we will just let our attendants pick their own attire within certain guidelines (color/length).

I guess the proper answer is that the groom doesn't automatically get a say, but I can't imagine a case where this would be a problem?

banana468 · July 2013

I feel like some say can be given. I went with DH when the tuxes were picked out.

That said, I think the bride and her BMs get ultimate right of refusal.

For our wedding, DH and I agreed on black and he requested that they not be strapless.

Finding a dress with straps was really freaking hard and a strapless one looked good on everyone so that's what we went with. It was a happy compromise.

Bubbles2014 · July 2013

I think he should get a say about the colour, maybe the style if he is interested. My FI agreed with my suggestions, and picked the final colour when I was tossing up between 2. If he had any objections I would have heard them out and tried to compromise. My only say on his WP's attire was that I preferred grey suits. So I suppose whatever say you have, he should have.

FWIW, my bridesmaids have the final say over their dress. I gave them the website, the colour, the fabric, and the length and told them to go for gold. I have no idea what their dresses will look like until they either a) send me a picture, if they want, or b) show up on the wedding day.

Simply Fated · July 2013

If they plan on having co-ordinating colors, then absolutely.

allispain · July 2013

I think he should have a say, if he wants to, but definitely not the final say. Some of the grooms I've seen on SYTTD Bridesmaids have been ridiculous, putting their foot down when everyone else (ie - the people who would actually be wearing the dresses...) liked a dress because he didn't, and things like that.

Angusaur · July 2013

The groom should have a say in everything in the wedding. It's for both of you, not only the bride. In the end, the bridesmaids should have majority of the say because they are the one paying and wearing the dresses. I'd say in most cases the groom probably couldn't care less. But if he does, his vote should count too.

Xstatic3333 · July 2013

I think he should have say in the wedding colors, for sure, and if there are one or two things he hates he can share that. But, in general, I think that should be up to the ladies. I will say that I put my money where my mouth is and gave my FI total control over the guys' attire. I would have had them in suits, but he wanted tuxes and chose colors different from what I would have. My only control was trying to get him to keep the price down for his GM. He's been asked to spend hundreds on tux rentals in the past and initially seemed out for revenge.

AddieCake · July 2013

I think some say can be given, but one of my cousins went with her fiance to actually pick out the bridesmaids' dresses. And by that I mean, they went to the salon and chose them and then told the bridesmaids what they would be wearing. I thought that was weird.

SomethingBeautiful08 · July 2013

That show make me VERY glad we had a small wedding party. I agree that if the Groom wants one that his vote should count. I think it helps to have the reasoning and motives out there, but in as much as the Bride has a say in the Groom's party atire, the groom should have a say in the bride's if he wants.

phira · July 2013

I think that the bride and groom should both have a say when it comes to the majority of wedding details. While my partner doesn't know how to "speak" women's fashion, he has opinions and he likes some kinds of dresses on me better than others. And I have preferences about suits and ties on him.

LizM61409 · July 2013

Agreed that the groom should have veto power over the color, seeing as it will be a large part of their wedding party pics, etc. But I think the exact dress should be left more to the bride and, you know, the people who will be wearing the dresses.

I'm actually strongly considering letting my bridesmaids each pick their own dress of a certain color and length

msuprincess04 · July 2013

My FI is very hands on, and cares about everything about as much as I do. So he also has some strong opinions when it comes to the BM attire, and he's coming with us shopping. In the end though, it'll likely be a compromise on everyone's parts to get everyone in a dress that works.

AJuliaNJ · July 2013

Yes, it's both of your wedding. Most grooms don't care, but if they do, I think they should be happy with the dresses, too. I'm not saying they have to come out shopping with you for them, but if they have some opinions, they should be able to express them.

KDM323 · July 2013

If they want a say, sure. My fiancé didnt care though.

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