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Sometimes it's not even worth trying

SBminiSBmini member
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edited July 2013 in Wedding Woes
The FI and I were watching "Orange is the New Black" last night (highly recommended) and there was a flash back scene with the main character (Piper) is the MOH at her best friend Polly's wedding. Polly's hair was in a wavy side ponytail. I asked my fiance if he liked her hair. He said no and that he liked Piper's hair better. Her hair was up in a low bun in the scene. My FI has made it known that he wants my hair DOWN. I point this out to him. 

His response was so classic and unanswerable and just... male. He said: "Well, I guess I can't like her hair because her face looks like a horse. I like the hotter chick's hair." image

And in the defense of Maria Diazza, the woman who plays Polly, she's a very attractive woman. He's lost his opinion privileges on this one.
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Re: Sometimes it's not even worth trying

  • tawillerstawillers member
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    What?  He preferred one hairstyle to another in a direct comparison.  It has nothing to do with your wedding hair.

    If the input he gave about your hair is that he likes it down, then wear it how you like it down.  Why does he have to sign off on the style?

    Out of curiosity, how DID the hair conversation go?  Did you ask him how he wanted you to wear it or did he offer the opinion unsolicited?

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  • Ven&RadioVen&Radio member
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    I think you might have been reading too much into his opinion.  If you had asked, which of the two girls hairstyles he'd rather see you in for your wedding, that would be a different story.

    I involve my FI in everything and value his opinion... but my hair is one area it wouldn't really occur to me to solicit his input on.  Then again, my hair is short enough there really aren't many options for what I can do with it....
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  • SBminiSBmini member
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    tawillers said:

    What?  He preferred one hairstyle to another in a direct comparison.  It has nothing to do with your wedding hair.

    If the input he gave about your hair is that he likes it down, then wear it how you like it down.  Why does he have to sign off on the style?

    Out of curiosity, how DID the hair conversation go?  Did you ask him how he wanted you to wear it or did he offer the opinion unsolicited?

    Conversation went down like this,

    Me: "How do you like her hair?"

    Him: "I don't like it"

    Me: "Oh, I thought it would be cute to wear it like that for the wedding."

    Him: "I like the other girl's hair more."

    Me: "But her hair is up, I thought you wanted my hair down"

    Him: "Yeah... but the other girl looks like a horse. I like the main girl's hair better"

    Basically- he can't look past facial features to give an opinion on hair. He can be opinionated on style related things and has asked that I wear my hair down. But if he can't look past facial features to offer an opinion on hair style, I don't think it's worth getting any more input from him after that. How can I trust that he's looking at the hair and not something else?
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    SBmini said:
    tawillers said:

    What?  He preferred one hairstyle to another in a direct comparison.  It has nothing to do with your wedding hair.

    If the input he gave about your hair is that he likes it down, then wear it how you like it down.  Why does he have to sign off on the style?

    Out of curiosity, how DID the hair conversation go?  Did you ask him how he wanted you to wear it or did he offer the opinion unsolicited?

    Conversation went down like this,

    Me: "How do you like her hair?"

    Him: "I don't like it"

    Me: "Oh, I thought it would be cute to wear it like that for the wedding."

    Him: "I like the other girl's hair more."

    Me: "But her hair is up, I thought you wanted my hair down"

    Him: "Yeah... but the other girl looks like a horse. I like the main girl's hair better"

    Basically- he can't look past facial features to give an opinion on hair. He can be opinionated on style related things and has asked that I wear my hair down. But if he can't look past facial features to offer an opinion on hair style, I don't think it's worth getting any more input from him after that. How can I trust that he's looking at the hair and not something else?
    No, I meant the wedding hair conversation.  You said he has made it known that he wants your hair down.  I was curious as to how that came about.
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  • hmonkeyhmonkey member
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    he's just trying to push her hair to be "better."
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  • PMeg819PMeg819 member
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    Why bother? I swear to god, this is why brides complain about stress. You know him- well I hope you do and this isn't some shady arranged marriage business. I know DH well enough that if I'm going to dress for him what he likes (hint- most men want you to wear nothing but a smile, possibly some hooker heels, but mostly no clothes). So do what the feck you want, he'll be in awe of how gorgeous you are on your wedding day, and if he says "I don't like your hair today" then I'd be thinking about how to return the gifts and get a quickie divorce.
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  • SBminiSBmini member
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    No, I meant the wedding hair conversation.  You said he has made it known that he wants your hair down.  I was curious as to how that came about.
    It was a while ago, I don't remember the specifics or who broached the topic first. 

    I don't think you guys are understanding the tone here. I find humor in this situation. I'm not exasperated, throwing my hands up and crying because I don't know what to do. I think it is funny and typical that he can't look past a girl's face to tell me what he thinks of her hair. It's just so him. He was like this when we were renovating the house too. I'd show him a photo in a magazine and ask him about paint color and he'd tell me the couch is ugly. Which is exactly why it doesn't matter how I wear my hair, he won't notice it anyways. 
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