Groom's Cake

misssunshine17 · July 2013

Hi ladies! I want to do a groom's cake, but I'm confused on how much big I should actually order it. I'm having 150 guests and our actual wedding cake with accommodation this, so how big do I make the grooms cake? Will everyone expect a choice between the two, because if that is the case, it'll be too expensive to be worth it. I'm tired and am over thinking this.. so what should I do? Thanks!

manateehugger · July 2013

I'm not sure if there is an "official" etiquette on the groom's cake, but I'm used to seeing the groom's cake served to just the WP (since it's smaller).

If they are the same quality of cake, I don't think it should really be an issue. Then it's just another flavor being offered.

CheleLyn · July 2013

We will have about 100 guests

This is basically how our wedding cake will look and what the groom's cake will be. Also, one of the Aunts insists on making cake pops so that'll be more cake. I think we'll have plenty.

Viczaesar · July 2013

PDKH said:

I'm not sure if there is an "official" etiquette on the groom's cake, but I'm used to seeing the groom's cake served to just the WP (since it's smaller).

If they are the same quality of cake, I don't think it should really be an issue. Then it's just another flavor being offered.

You shouldn't serve something to just the wedding party.

manateehugger · July 2013

I'm not personally planning on doing it (groom's cake is too much work for us) - but I see it the same as when the couple has an elaborate wedding cake and then a kitchen cake of the same cake. If it's the same cake, I don't really care what form it came in.

misssunshine17 · July 2013

With the detail and cost, I'm willing to buy a cake for about 40 people. Do we think this would be okay? I was thinking our actual cake could be served and the grooms cake could be sliced and left on the table for people to take if they wanted?

ETA: I wouldn't be comfortable with only doing WP.

manateehugger · July 2013

If you just slice it up and leave it on a "grab and go" table with the rest of the cake, that's fine.

And for pete's sake - I just said what I'm used to seeing.

Viczaesar · July 2013

And I just said that that's inappropriate, which it is, etiquette-wise. Something should not be served to only the bride and groom or only the wedding party.

manateehugger · July 2013

Oh geeze. Just nevermind.

Bird Lady · July 2013

In my circle it is common to do a groom's cake at the rehearsal dinner and not at the actual wedding. No idea why, but I'm not objecting to delicious cake two nights in a row!

Otherwise, I've just seen it sliced up and left on a table as a first come, first serve thing.

hardlyhannah · July 2013

I am having cake for everyone (about 160 people), and then a grooms 'cake' which will be a half sheet of rice krispie treat because FI doesn't like actual cake. It's going to be pretty tall though so the half sheet cut thin (but tall) should be enough for everyone to have both desserts if they want. We will only be serving the cake though, the rice krispie treat will be cut and left on the table to grab if they want it - probably more as a late night snack.

onelovelywedding · July 2013

I had a very large wedding cake - for over 400 people. The groom's cake was just a small two layer chocolate cake. It was cut and my husband and I did have a taste of it, -- but it is not like it was there for the wedding guests to have a choice as to which cake they wanted - It was there for whoever wanted it - first come, first serve. The groom's cake has always been sort of a novelty cake...not everybody has one and there is no need to have one if you don't want it.

MobKaz · July 2013

Bird Lady said:

In my circle it is common to do a groom's cake at the rehearsal dinner and not at the actual wedding. No idea why, but I'm not objecting to delicious cake two nights in a row!

Otherwise, I've just seen it sliced up and left on a table as a first come, first serve thing.

I have only been to 2 weddings that have had a groom's cake. Both times, the cake was served at the rehearsal dinner.

misssunshine17 · July 2013

Thanks ladies! I'll see what I can do! I should have mentioned our RD is at a restaurant and I asked about bringing in a cake and they said no, they don't allow outside food. FI's friends are staying at a lake house and he will be there the night before, so I could always leave it there, but I won't get to see any sort of reaction so that would be my last option. Thanks!

ChellaTims · July 2013

Usually the grooms cake is chocolate and served along with the wedding cake. I'm in Alabama and grooms cakes have been a tradition here since people immigrated here from victorian England. It's not new and it's not a novelty. Some take it more personal than others but grooms cake are supposed to represent the groom and his intrest and/or hobbies. I love grooms cakes and look forward to them moreso than the wedding cake but down here we go all out. I wish I knew how to post pictures and I would post the two cakes we're considering; ones a football stadium and the other is cupcakes set-up like a stadium and as if they were players (it's really cute). Just google grooms cakes in Alabama or Georgia and you should find some good ones to laugh at and relieve some stress!

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