Assigned Seating

bookgal77 · July 2010

Question for those of you in Kentucky. Is assigned seating at weddings common there? I grew up there but have been gone for over 10 years and the last KY wedding I went to was probably 15 years ago. None of the ones I attended when I was younger had assigned seating. We'll have a good mix of KY and other states represented at our KY wedding (16 states represented total) so I am trying to understand the norm. I prefer NOT to do one, but wanted to see what others had experienced.

Thanks!

bookgal77 · July 2010

To clarify, I am asking about assigned tables overall and not just the seats within the table. I was thinking of doing a bridal party table, an immediate family table, and free range for the rest.

FKS · July 2010

I've seen it done both ways and I think it's ultimately up to you and what you think your friends and family will feel more comfortable with. We are having a pretty mixed group and we are going to do assigned tables - not seats - to save people from feeling awkward about who they are going to sit with and where. Especially for the weddings we've gone to where we didn't know a lot of people, we were thankful for an assigned table so that we didn't have to find someone to sit with.

I don't think you can really go wrong either way. After dinner a lot of people get up to mingle and dance anyway, so they aren't committed to their table of people all night regardless. Just go with your gut

ambi083 · July 2010

I have only been to weddings where everyone chose their own table and seat. I don't think that as responsible adults, the guests should have an issue picking their own spot. Also, why should I stress out about if Bobby can't sit next to Tommy cause they fought in 5th grade? I do think that overall it is whatever the happy couple is comfortable with, though.

inkygirl · July 2010

I hate weddings where there aren't assigned tables. I've also heard that you have to plan for 30% more tables and centerpieces if you don't do assigned tables because people won't fill up a table. That's totally true. And, remember that people who stay for pics but aren't necessarily in the bridal party (flower girl's parents, etc) will be there late and might not have a seat too. It's more work for the bride and groom, but it's not that bad and it makes life so much easier for your guests.

squirrly · July 2010

We did assigned tables and let people choose their own seats. I really hate free-for-alls at weddings. It never turns out well, IMO. People who are in the front of the line stake out whole tables for groups of 5, and groups of 8 end up split into pairs, scattered across the room.

kateschoen_11295145 · July 2010

I agree with assigned seats. I've never been to a wedding that has had it. I think it's a nice gesture to your guests to give them a table. It makes it more personal.

Tuneful_Bride · August 2010

I really prefer to have seating assigned. When I can't sit with my "crew" because the table is full, I have to scout out seats for my husband and myself at some other table. I inevitably feel like an interloper, and conversation seems stilted. I think if the bride and groom have taken the time to place me at a table with the Jones and the Mackenzies, they must think that we have some common ground -- and we do!

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