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Are you attracted to any friends' spouses/partners

fmbyofmbyo member
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edited July 2013 in Wedding Woes
They're discussing on the radio the appropriate reaction to thinking your friend has an attraction to your spouse.

Are you attracted to any friends' spouses/partners 51 votes

Yes. And I've been inappropriate with him/her.
7% 4 votes
Ew. I'm the only one who is with someone attractive in my group. All my friends are jealousE
7% 4 votes
Yes, but I admire them from a distance, obviously.
29% 15 votes
Uh. No.
52% 27 votes
Other (respond below)
1% 1 vote
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Re: Are you attracted to any friends' spouses/partners

  • fmbyofmbyo member
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    On the radio the general consensus is to abandon the friend who is attracted to the girl's spouse, publicly shaming her and having all the mutual friends turn their backs.

    From what I've heard it doesn't sound necessarily like anything inappropriate has gone on, she just talks to the spouse at parties.
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  • mrsconn23mrsconn23 member
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    I can think of a couple guys in our circle of friends who are good looking/have a nice body.  I don't lust for them or anything.   But if I were to describe them physically, I'd definitely say that they're good-looking/attractive.
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  • fmbyofmbyo member
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    Yeah, that's where I stand on one of my friends. Attractive in the "if I had to describe him" kind of way, and if he had a brother I'd want to hook him up with BFF. Not in a lust sort of way. Also: It would never even occur to me to be inappropriate with him, but it would also be really weird if his wife (also a good friend) was all, "DON'T TALK TO MY HUSBAND, SLUT!"
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  • baconsmombaconsmom member
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    I just said "no", but maybe I should be a special snowflake, because we don't have couple friends. I have my friends, who are all single, and H and I have BFFs, but that's it. And male half of BFFs is not attractive at all. I'm still not sure why BFF married him. 
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  • MissMollyMissMolly member
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    Maybe your BFF married the guy because she was attracted to not only his appearance, but who he is on the inside as well. I've known some absolutely stunning-looking men and women, but their personalities told a different story: some were really dull, some downright mean, and others were wonderful people. Looks aren't everything.
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  • fmbyofmbyo member
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    Aleshad1978 said:
    Maybe your BFF married the guy because she was attracted to not only his appearance, but who he is on the inside as well. I've known some absolutely stunning-looking men and women, but their personalities told a different story: some were really dull, some downright mean, and others were wonderful people. Looks aren't everything.
    YEAH, BMOM.
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  • MissMollyMissMolly member
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    fmbyo said:
    Aleshad1978 said:
    Maybe your BFF married the guy because she was attracted to not only his appearance, but who he is on the inside as well. I've known some absolutely stunning-looking men and women, but their personalities told a different story: some were really dull, some downright mean, and others were wonderful people. Looks aren't everything.
    YEAH, BMOM.
    Sorry, I wasn't trying to be snarky; just pointing out that there are always different viewpoints.
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  • zsazsa-stlzsazsa-stl member
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    Are you not supposed to talk to friends' spouses at parties? 
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    I just a friendly gal looking for options.

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  • fmbyofmbyo member
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    zsazsa-stl said:
    Are you not supposed to talk to friends' spouses at parties? 
    This is what's strange to me.
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  • baconsmombaconsmom member
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    No, I meant he's not *attractive*, neither inside nor out. If I just thought he wasn't good-looking, that wouldn't be a reason to wonder. Attractive=/=handsome, necessarily, and that's why I used the first word. Dude's an asshole. 
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  • MissMollyMissMolly member
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    baconsmom said:
    No, I meant he's not *attractive*, neither inside nor out. If I just thought he wasn't good-looking, that wouldn't be a reason to wonder. Attractive=/=handsome, necessarily, and that's why I used the first word. Dude's an asshole. 
    Gotcha, and yeah, that's a totally different story! :-S
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  • ReturnOfKuusReturnOfKuus member
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    Attractive is also not A thing, but such a personal, subjective thing.  For example, Mr. Kuus thinks my best friend's husband is super handsome.  I was unaware that the guy is handsome (though he IS awesome and smart and funny; I knew that) until Mr. Kuus informed me.  She and I just have vastly different taste.
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  • fmbyofmbyo member
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    I'm curious about the folks that polled they've been inappropriate with their friend's S/O. What they think inappropriate behavior it is, how far it went, what happened, etc. Anybody willing to post?
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  • tesskerrtesskerr member
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    I once had a little crush on a work mates boyfriend. Who knows why, lasted 5 mins till he cheated on her. That is NOT attractive haha.

    But most of our friends, the guys, I just do not find attractive at all. Missing teeth etc. My FI is honestly the only attractive one in the group. That sounds really really horrible! I also don't mind these mens personality's very attractive either. 

    We were at a wedding recently and a friend of a friend of a friend was soooo gooood loooking. And he was sitting at our table! That was an exciting night. His wife was also amazing looking, they were like super nice, super models. With 2 beautiful children! I found their whole family so attractive. But I guess that is not really what you were after either... 
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