FI and I have decided not to have an MOH or BM. We did however ask my two nieces and his youngest 1st cousin once removed to be flower girls. My nieces are definitely in. Waiting to confirm regarding youngest cousin. They will be about 7, 8, and almsot 9 at the time of the wedding. All appear to be excited about wearing a pretty dress and throwing flower petals in the wedding and standing up with us (we will of course have chairs for them if they need to sit).
Here's my potential dilemma. Younger niece (who will be 7 yrs old at time of wedding) is also my goddaughter. I love both my nieces and (having met her only once), like FI's cousin very well. I would like to have my younger niece hold my bouquet during the ceremony (it won't be big, and given her athleticism, she shouldn't have a problem holding it) without singling her out too much. My biggest concern is the other little girls being offended, and I don't want to say "well I love you all, but she's my goddaughter, so she's extra special." All will have same dress, all will receive same gift, all will be sitting with FI and I and be made to feel special on our wedding day.
The only way I can think of at the moment is have the girls walk and stand in order of age, with the 9 yr old being furthest from me, and youngest niece being closest, so it appears to be a matter of convenience. Alternatively, tell them to pass it between them if they get tired of holding it. But I don't want to turn around to see a tug of war ending in a flower explosion. I've got time to figure this out, but external ideas and thoughts seperate from my own I've found can be quite helpful.
Thanks!