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How to structure ceremony??

So...we are having an outdoor tented wedding at our home. The ceremony is also going to be at our home, and the original plan was to have all 80ish of our guests there for a traditional ceremony and then move to the party in the tent. However, FI and I have talked and he would be much more comfortable sharing such a personal moment with just our immediate family and then having everyone else show up afterward for the reception. I know a lot of people talk about the etiquette of this, but I am not so worried about it because he is one of many in his family that have done it this way (some sort of genetic stage fright or something lol) and this is my second wedding so I am not really inviting very many guests except for my immediate family anyway.

The problem is that since our ceremony is only going to have about 10 people in it, all of which would normally be part of the processional in a traditional wedding, I have no idea how to structure it. The only thoughts that come into my head is basically a traditional processional thing with no guests (lol) or else it feels like we are all just gonna walk out in the yard and just do it and that seems just way to casual.

Has anyone else done this? I want to walk down the aisle and have that be the "first look" and I'd like my dad to give me away. Would it be appropriate if we just have our family go outside and get seated and our best man and maid of honor (the only wedding party we have) go ahead and take their spots sans-processional, and then my dad just walk me down the aisle and take a seat? I don't know how to do this without it being awkward.

Thanks!

Re: How to structure ceremony??

  • AddieCakeAddieCake Beyond the Wall member
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    edited July 2013
    I think that would be fine. Another option is to do it how one of my bridesmaids did it at her backyard wedding with only a handful of people. The only wedding party attendants were her husband's son and I, and so we walked in together and then she and her escort followed us. That way, there was still some sort of "processional" without it being too weird with everyone in it. 


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    Has anyone else done this? I want to walk down the aisle and have that be the "first look" and I'd like my dad to give me away. Would it be appropriate if we just have our family go outside and get seated and our best man and maid of honor (the only wedding party we have) go ahead and take their spots sans-processional, and then my dad just walk me down the aisle and take a seat? I don't know how to do this without it being awkward.

    Thanks!

    That sounds perfectly lovely.

    I'm not sure why, but I also have this picture in my head of a small group seated in more of a semi-circle (w/ a space in the middle for an aisle).  I think it would give it an intimate feel and also feel like the witnesses are a part of the ceremony

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