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Carrying across the threshold?

calisauntbethcalisauntbeth
edited July 2013 in Plus-Sized
FI has hinted that he intends to do the carrying me across the threshold thing.  He is 43 and only weighs 130 lbs.  I am not a small woman.  I'm terrified that he will hurt himself if he tries.  I know that he is strong and don't want him to think that I think he is lacking in anyway.  I just feel that I am too big for anyone to pick up and carry.  
Any suggestions on how to avoid this or gently get him to understand?
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  • AllieBear725AllieBear725 member
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    I'm putting my garter below my knee so it isn't on my thigh. As for the carrying, I would just be honest with him and let him know it makes you nervous and uncomfortable. Maybe y'all could jump over together or something instead. Good luck!
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  • ashwiseashwise member
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    I've been worrying about that too recently, both the carrying and the garter.  I've decided that we'll just jump over the threshold together that way neither of us is hurt or whichever.  You can try and explain to your FI that it isn't because you think he's lacking, but you just don't want to hurt him.  If he's set on carrying you, perhaps you could practice it? Also don't forget to tell him that whatever you weigh you'll also have a wedding dress on which is heavy on it's own (depending on your type of dress--I'm doing a big ball gown which was easily 15-20 pounds).  

    As for the garter I'm currently researching shops online that specialize in plus sized garters.  If I come across any I'll be sure to post for you.
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  • DeelovesunitedDeelovesunited
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    If my FI was to carry me he'd break his back or worse lol..  I'm a size 16 which isn't that much bigger than he is but I totally understand the insecurity of this..... I just told him straight up the thought of him carrying me makes me super self concious and I wasn't up for it. He wasn't mad or upset or anything. Just be honest! As for the garters, I'll wear mine as high as it will go which might be to my knee if I'm lucky.... Try looking on ebay or similar for plus size garters!
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  • thekorsansthekorsans member
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    i bought my garter on etsy and told the seller i have a bigger leg (24 inches) and they made it perfect size for me and didn't charge me any extra for it!!
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  • ahende04ahende04 member
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    LeSwan85 said:
    This makes me nervous too, quite frankly. My fiance is a pretty big strong dude, but I am also his big strong lady who's weight most people tend to drastically underestimate. I have told him straight up that I don't want to break him and he's just laughed it off saying "it's not like I'm going to be carrying you for more than a few inches". Unless I can talk him out of it, I'm just going to cross my fingers and hope he doesn't throw his back out.
    This is true for me as well!!!
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