Good invitation notes

MuppetFan · July 2013

We should sticky this and add some notes about Facebook and guests with SOs and call it a day.

http://citygirlweddings.com/blog/2011/02/03/9-things-you-dont-do-when-sending-out-your-wedding-invitations/

MayDay513 · July 2013

Yeah. That SOs thing was so new to me when I was doing invites.

misshart00 · July 2013

Except number 9 is saying a b list is okay.

Ven&Radio · July 2013

The last point supports a B-list. Other than that, good advice.

Peaseblossom55 · July 2013

ahh I can't get the link at work.. I hate that, but even without reading it I agree.

MuppetFan · July 2013

Damnit, I read it as "Don't offend with a B list".

And I didn't really mean to sticky it...the sticky part was a joke.

NerdyLucy · July 2013

I've already broken rule #6, but I'm not particularly bothered for two reasons. One is that the invitation envelopes are plain white and not fancy, so I don't feel that the label "ruins" them. Two, the labels match the invitations and the RSVP cards. We bought them specifically for this purpose.

GypsyWife_ · July 2013

What are labels?

NerdyLucy · July 2013

I thought it meant address labels, but I could be wrong.

HisGirlFriday13 · July 2013

I agree with this list except for the B-listing part. That's never OK, ever ever, I don't care who you are.

I do agree with no labels, even though that means someone (read: me) will be painstakingly hand-calligraphing invitations this weekend.

Thank god we only have 75 of them.

efmcc67 · July 2013

I ran my envelopes through the printer. No tacky labels, and no horrible handwriting.

manjermj · July 2013

The two most recent wedding invitations we've received both had labels on them. I side-eyed it, the moment I saw it.

Xstatic3333 · July 2013

I don't side eye labels, but I hand wrote mine since I'm a computer mess and it was actually easier for me. When I heard it was good etiquette too that made me feel better.

MuppetFan · July 2013

I did labels for the return address on the reply cards. I used clear labels. Honestly, you'd have to put your hand over them to know it was a label, they looked pretty good. I had already printed my address on the front and then my fiance's cousin sent us her invitation and did that and I thought it was an excellent idea to keep track of where the reply cards are coming from. My friend had like 8 people not write names on the reply cards when they sent them back so I figured that will help.

Everything else was printed on my computer with a really elegant font. I spent a night with calligraphy pens trying to trace over lightly printed writing or trying to write really nice, wasn't worth it at all...the printing looked good

Chipmunk415 · July 2013

So out of curiosity with labelling, does anyone have any pro/con comments/objections to getting a custom stamp for the return envelopes for the RSVPs?

AllyIdo · July 2013

Why is using labels such a faux pas? I have terrible handwriting and I cannot afford to pay someone else to write out all of the addresses.

There are plenty of pretty labels out there... what's the big deal?

efmcc67 · July 2013

Chipmunk415 said:

So out of curiosity with labelling, does anyone have any pro/con comments/objections to getting a custom stamp for the return envelopes for the RSVPs?

From an etiquette perspective, I think it's fine (though I'll be curious to hear what others think). I thought about getting one, but I decided against it only because I don't think I'll have this address much longer. I just didn't want to invest the money in a stamp that would become useless pretty quickly.

annathy03 · July 2013

allyscud said:

Why is using labels such a faux pas? I have terrible handwriting and I cannot afford to pay someone else to write out all of the addresses.

There are plenty of pretty labels out there... what's the big deal?

I'm curious about this as well. My understanding of etiquette is tied to hosting and treating people properly, and I'm not sure how using labels relates to that.

Chipmunk415 · July 2013

@efmcc- thanks for your thoughts! We plan on staying in current location for at least a few more years, so I don't see the stamp being a problem for us- can actually get them pretty cheap these days online.

As for "attire guidelines", someone please clarify- I'm getting married at a Country Club that does not allow shorts, denim, and for events, gentlemen must wear a jacket at all times (unless you spill something on it of course). I don't plan on listing that on the invite, but would it be appropriate to list that info on the wedding website regarding where we are getting married? (IE- "Please note that blah blah country club requires gentlemen to wear a blazer or suit jacket")

MuppetFan · July 2013

Chipmunk415 said:

@efmcc- thanks for your thoughts! We plan on staying in current location for at least a few more years, so I don't see the stamp being a problem for us- can actually get them pretty cheap these days online.

As for "attire guidelines", someone please clarify- I'm getting married at a Country Club that does not allow shorts, denim, and for events, gentlemen must wear a jacket at all times (unless you spill something on it of course). I don't plan on listing that on the invite, but would it be appropriate to list that info on the wedding website regarding where we are getting married? (IE- "Please note that blah blah country club requires gentlemen to wear a blazer or suit jacket")

I don't know what etiquette requires but are you sure that the country club is requiring this for your wedding? I'm getting married at one who also has a dress code for the green but this is not something they are expecting my guests to correspond to.

My FI doesn't own a suit jacket and he's not going to buy one for one day. We looked for one last year and had to go to a suit store because his shoulders are so broad and $250 for the cheapest one. Most of his friends don't own them either, they don't need them for work..so either we'd be coming without one, or we'd decline the invitation if we were taking the notice really seriously.

I'd consult with the CC for clarification. They are not normally that strict.... what are they going to do, kick your guests out?

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