Reception Shoes

carlyjoannphillips · July 2013

So I have been looking for reception shoes for a while now and need some advice. I have heels for the ceremony and am doing a bustle all around the dress so I can wear flats for the reception. It's in Jan - and I want something comfortable. No flip flops and no ballet flats. My ideas are Toms, Sperry's, or Converse. Anyone worn those? Suggestions? Other ideas? I like the idea of Converse or Sperry's because I would be able to wear short socks. No one likes sweaty feet!

Help!!

chibiyui · July 2013

I've seen lots of brides rock chucks. You could go glittery, your wedding colors or whatever you want honestly.

mlg78 · July 2013

A lot of people here are anti-comfy shoes while wearing a formal dress. I'm wearing converse for the reception. They're purple, I already own them...and I'll be comfortable. I'm not a heels girl so there's no way I'd keep that up through the reception...it's just not realistic.

QueerFemme · July 2013

I am not anti-comfy shoes for your reception. I am anti-sneakers. You are wearing a formal gown, and in my opinion, sneakers look absolutely ridiculous. There are plenty of comfortable dress or casual shoes that aren't meant to be used on a basketball court.

aRachel21 · July 2013

Sperrys are cute if you're going shopping or hanging out on a boat, but they're not for weddings (in my opinion). I would feel so frumpy in sperrys or converse. Why can't you go with some cute comfy flats??

misssunshine17 · July 2013

QueerFemme said:

I am not anti-comfy shoes for your reception. I am anti-sneakers. You are wearing a formal gown, and in my opinion, sneakers look absolutely ridiculous. There are plenty of comfortable dress or casual shoes that aren't meant to be used on a basketball court.

This exactly. The have foam wedges that I've heard are fabulous to change into.

BMoreBride6 · July 2013

I got mine custom designed from B Street Shoes

http://www.etsy.com/search?q=b street shoes&view_type=gallery&ship_to=US&ref=auto1

He is awesome and will custom design andy style of Toms, Vans, Converse, etc. that you like : )

[Deleted User] · July 2013

I went with some really cute ballet flats from Target. I was comfy and danced the night away. But that was my choice. I did run into a little challenge when I went from my 2 1/2 heels to my flats because the length of my dress was for the heels. I had to make sure to pick up my dress for walking around and sometimes even dancing to make sure I didn't trip on my dress.

LitLover · July 2013

QueerFemme said:

I am not anti-comfy shoes for your reception. I am anti-sneakers. You are wearing a formal gown, and in my opinion, sneakers look absolutely ridiculous. There are plenty of comfortable dress or casual shoes that aren't meant to be used on a basketball court.

I disagree. My sister wore Converse for her wedding that had her date on the side and they looked really cute. I say pick the shoes you feel comfiest in since you're going to be wearing them for at least two or three hours and you need to be able to dance in them.

ElcaB · July 2013

They're your feet. Wear whatever you'll feel most comfortable in! (If it weren't for dirty floors, I'd happily go barefoot because that's how I'm most comfy!)

Sumler2Be · July 2013

Im having a winter wedding and im a tomboy at heart so I will be wearing wedged converse looking sneakers that are all glitter for the entire thing. I say wear what u want...its ur day

emmyg65 · July 2013

I bought fun Cole Haan wingtip Oxfords for my reception (like this, but the accent is purple instead of yellow). I think the Converse shoes look so cute with wedding dresses.

MayDay513 · July 2013

I wore flats. I have sparkle toms that I love. Also flip flops would be nice.

carlyjoannphillips · July 2013

The design of my dress actually allows it to be hemmed for my heels, and then will be bustled throughout to shorten all of it. My seamstress does amazing things.

QueerFemme · July 2013

CMGr said:

The Converse thing was a fad that is over. Whatever shoes you choose should be appropriate with a formal gown. There are plenty of comfortable choices out there that aren't inappropriate. We old ladies have to wear comfortable shoes all the time, but you don't see us in Converse at church. I do not understand why some brides get upset about their guests wearing jeans, but then want to wear athletic shoes with their gown!

I wish the fad was over. It makes everyone look like they are going to a high school prom. I normally don't give 2 craps about what people wear to their wedding, but this fad looks absolutely ridiculous.

carlyjoannphillips · July 2013

Thank you all for the shoe suggestions, and thank you to those who gave their opinion on why a bride should not wear certain shoes - even though that was not the question I asked.

To those who posted legitimate responses - thank you!

QueerFemme · July 2013

carlyjoannphillips said:

Thank you all for the shoe suggestions, and thank you to those who gave their opinion on why a bride should not wear certain shoes - even though that was not the question I asked. To those who posted legitimate responses - thank you!

They are all legitimate responses, even if they aren't responses you may have wanted to hear. It's sort of like this scenario:

you: Hey, I'm going to go rob that bank. Think I should use a gun or a knife?

me: Oh, you shouldn't rob that bank! It's against the law and you might go to jail.

you: Well, that's not what I asked!!!!

kristingregwedding · July 2013

If no one is going to see your shoes underneath your dress, then go for whatever is comfortable! All I read is "no one will see the shoes with a long gown" when talking about bridesmaid shoes... then everyone gives flack on what the bride wants to wear under her dress to be comfortable at the reception if it isn't formal! If no one is going to see the shoes, whats the big deal??

QueerFemme · July 2013

kristingregwedding said:

If no one is going to see your shoes underneath your dress, then go for whatever is comfortable! All I read is "no one will see the shoes with a long gown" when talking about bridesmaid shoes... then everyone gives flack on what the bride wants to wear under her dress to be comfortable at the reception if it isn't formal! If no one is going to see the shoes, whats the big deal??

No one will notice the bridesmaid's shoes, because no one really pays that much attention to the bridesmaids. No one ever suggests that the bridesmaids wear sneakers. They always just suggest appropriate shoes that the bride doesn't freak out over.

Sneakers get noticed. Most of the time, it's because the bride thinks their sneakers are so cute and unique, that she raises her dress to show everyone.

Also, no one notices appropriate shoes. If they are casual, or just low flats, they go unnoticed. If they are completely inappropriate to be paired with a formal gown, people notice that.

QueerFemme · July 2013

StageManager14 said:

I actually don't think anyone did notice the sneakers with my dress, but they were solid white, not "cutesy" and we were drunk in a karaoke bar with bad lighting. I also didn't go around showing them off. They, like my white knee brace, were just necessary accessories to keep the party going. I did show off my flip flops at the wedding reception though. I'd done my own stoning and I was proud of those suckers.

see, I don't think I would even think twice about sneakers at a bar, post-wedding. I just hate seeing brides trot down the aisle in a pair of chucks

mnwatson1 · July 2013

I am doing a pretty pair of low heels for my ceremony (they're only like 2", mostly because anything higher kills me after 15 minutes!) and then going to pretty, sparkly, silver Hello Kitty glitter flats for the reception. I LOVE the shoes, I think they're absolutely adorable, but I completely didn't find them appropriate for the ceremony, and honestly, I also considered the differences in walking style of heels vs flats when I decided to go that route. There also isn't enough of a difference for it to be a big problem switching to lower shoes for the reception, as far as my dress is concerned.

As far as sneakers with a wedding dress, I personally hate them, though I know lots of people do them. I actually argued with FI over my reception shoes, because at first he thought I wanted to wear them for the ceremony too, and he also didn't think that they were quite appropriate for our marriage ceremony. Once he understood that I had no intention of that however, and that I only wanted them for the reception (and as a way to show my personality, because everyone knows how much I love Hello Kitty!) he was perfectly okay with it.

His actual statement about the ceremony though, echoed many of the other ladies' statements: "You want to pay how much for a dress, walk in front of all of our family and friends during this extremely formal event, in WHAT shoes?"

And really, they aren't even obviously Hello Kitty until you see the metal piece on the bow.

kristingregwedding · July 2013

I can 100% understand the no sneakers with dress for the ceremony, especially if it is at a church, but if someone needs comfy shoes for dancing, and is not going to be showing them off to all guests, is it really bad to wear comfy toms or something similar?

I'm not trying to be rude, I just don't see the big deal in someones choice over their footwear at their own wedding..

ksblumb · August 2013

I got a pair of the snow leopard toms (white with metallic silver print) for getting ready and changed into them about half way through the reception). Absolutely loved them.

kp53114 · August 2013

Toms have "wedding styles" on their site.

http://www.toms.com/womens/collections/wedding-styles/c?view=all

Also, here's a link to a blog post about offbeat wedding shoes (I love the patent oxfords, personally. Just doesn't work for my dress.)

http://joannagoddard.blogspot.com/2013/03/offbeat-wedding-shoes.html

MDbride1012 · August 2013

I'm wearing heels for my ceremony and my cowboy boots for the reception.

heidirs731 · August 2013

The only problem I would have with wearing sneakers is that the soles of those shoes are usually counterproductive when it comes to dancing. If you've ever taken a dancing class and worn sneakers, the instructor will usually tell you to come back with a different par of shoes next time. The rubber soles just don't slide.

I wanted to wear sneakers but nixed the idea for that reason. Instead I'm wearing slightly heeled, dressy sandals. So I should be comfy and able to dance in them.

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