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when to announce engagement

shavasanashavasana member
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My BF proposed about a month ago, but we haven't told anybody we are engaged yet because I didn't have my ring until a few days ago (he wanted me to pick it out and we had to order it). Now that it's here, I really want to share the good new but my BFF's baby shower is this weekend and my cousin's wedding is next weekend. I don't want to take any attention away from these events, but would it be okay to tell close family and friends now, and wear the ring to the events? I obviously wouldn't call attention to it myself, but I am sure some people would notice.
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    I don't see why not.  I wouldn't announce it in the middle of their event, but any other time seems fine! They only get that day. Congrats!
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  • smalfrie19smalfrie19 member
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    I would call you close family and friends and maybe change you status on FB.
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  • libby2483libby2483 member
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    I think that you should tell your family and close friends.  They may be hurt if they find out that you were engaged for several weeks and didn't tell them.  
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  • Simply FatedSimply Fated member
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    I agree with Libby. Even if it was my shower, I'd want to know instead of knowing you kept it from me to "protect" me.
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  • NOLAbridealmostNOLAbridealmost member
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    Tell everyone now.
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  • StephJean83StephJean83 member
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    You can tell close friends and family now. My FH and I were at a wedding a couple weeks ago and we had a few people, including the MOB and MOG congratulating us and were we got engaged last winter. I don't see why you can't wear your ring. Since I got mine, I only take it off to do dishes, when I'm digging in dirt or mashing meat, bathing or sleeping. I feel naked without it on. People can't expect other people's lives to stop because of their wedding or baby shower. My sister announced her pregnancy a couple weeks after we announced our engagement. I did have some of my sister's friends make comments about how I should have held off announcing it til closer to our date or after my sister's pregnancy.

    Congrats on your engagement and enjoy planning!
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  • misssunshine17misssunshine17 member
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    Tell them now. I would say the sooner the better before the cousin's wedding so people are aware and don't make a big fuss when you get there. Don't put off wearing your engagement ring for someone else. I get not wanting to 'steal thunder' but that is a little extreme. 
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  • Bubbles2014Bubbles2014 member
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    Call family and friends now. Change your FB status. Wear your ring. People may comment and ask questions at these upcoming events, and that is fine. People will be chatting about their lives at the shower and wedding, you'll just be doing the same!

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  • s-aries8990s-aries8990 member
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    I agree with PPs. Call all of the important people now and wear your ring with no worries. As long as you don't make a speech to announce your engagement, you won't be stealing anyone's thunder.
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