Stop the obsessive FB wedding updates already! VENT

Re: Stop the obsessive FB wedding updates already! VENT

• AnnK8y5

  

  May 2012

  Haha. I have one of those on my FB too. We really aren't great friends so I'm not invited. I really want to say that I plan on attending since they're talking about it so much! Other than the fact that it's very annoying, I think it's rude to talk about your wedding to people who aren't invited.

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• LeiselEB member

  

  May 2012

  Oh my sweet Jesus. I can sort of understand the countdown type things, if they're every once in a while...but the RSVP deadline updates? Ew. 

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• AnnK8y5

  

  May 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_stop-the-obsessive-fb-wedding-updates-already-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:721d2a75-0022-4e73-bf84-c4386109e215Post:0944fbb8-a5de-4e3b-a154-5780b98c5530">Re: Stop the obsessive FB wedding updates already! VENT</a>:
  [QUOTE] I angrily deleted her when she announced her pre-wedding Brazilian wax complete with a photo of the red areas of her upper legs and lower belly tagged with "Ouchies![/QUOTE]
  
  Uh seriously??

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• megan8290

  

  May 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_stop-the-obsessive-fb-wedding-updates-already-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:721d2a75-0022-4e73-bf84-c4386109e215Post:0944fbb8-a5de-4e3b-a154-5780b98c5530">Re: Stop the obsessive FB wedding updates already! VENT</a>:
  [QUOTE]That's annoying.  Hide this person from your newsfeed or delete them from your friends and you won't have to see that garbage.  I had afriend obsessing about her wedding and posting countdowns and pictures of everything which was annoying, but tolerable. I angrily deleted her when she announced her pre-wedding Brazilian wax complete with a <strong>photo of the red areas of her upper legs and lower belly </strong>tagged with "Ouchies! The things I do for love"(she had underwear on, thank god). No thank you, TMI, I'm defriending you so you can't assault my eyes with that nonsense anymore.
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  </div><div>EW. That's SO disgusting. Completely don't blame you for deleting her. </div>

  

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• brittneyh4

  

  May 2012

  KS that is nasty! I have a friend who posts similar stuff like that.. like we all care. FB is not a journal entry. I get overly excited and randomly post something about the wedding, and I keep a silent countdown (not on fb), but damn. These people are nuts.

  

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• Gabrielle76

  

  May 2012

  What, you guys don't post pictures of it when you get a wax? I just really feel like my friends need to know about that kind of thing.  I'm still trying to figure out how to get a live feed set up for my next wax. 
  
  In all seriousness that's completely disgusting.  I get annoyed at my engaged friends who constantly update "I just couldn't love -insert FI's name here- more! Can't wait until we're married!", and things like that.  Of course you love your Fi.  I guessed that when you announced your engagement, you don't need to remind everyone on facebook every two days.  

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• Cortney1982 member

  

  May 2012

  Seems like a lot of people didn't even care to respond and she is freaking out!  The only thing I posted on Facebook about my wedding was my ring and the official day.  Nothing else as all my friends on facebook are not invited and that would be rude to put constant reminders they aren't invited!

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• Lizzieyounce member

  

  May 2012

  It's one thing to post pics of the injuries sustained on your leg and thigh when your cat falls in the bathtub while you're bathing, BUT I would never; 1. get a brazillian (I'm a wimp) and 2. post pics of the "ouchies" left by said brazillian.

  
  

  
  

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• Nshivers

  

  May 2012

  omg, eww.

  

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• SparrowSong member

  

  May 2012

  Some people don't realize how boring they are. Talking, and talking, and talking about themselves as if everyone in the world is thinking the wedding is the event of the decade. And it's all you can do to sit on your hands so you don't reply "OMG nobody cares, shut up about this."

  
  

  Don't worry, she'll get married here soon and then suddenly find her life empty with nothing to obsess about. Until she gets pregnant. And you'll put her on ignore when those updates start. Because the only thing worse than constant wedding updates are constant TMI pregnancy updates.

  
  

  ... not that I have someone very similar to this on my fb friends list or anything. ; )

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• megan8290

  

  May 2012 edited May 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_stop-the-obsessive-fb-wedding-updates-already-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:721d2a75-0022-4e73-bf84-c4386109e215Post:0a36d47e-f1e7-450c-b42b-774910929c5e">Re: Stop the obsessive FB wedding updates already! VENT</a>:
  [QUOTE]Some people don't realize how boring they are. Talking, and talking, and talking about themselves as if everyone in the world is thinking the wedding is the event of the decade. And it's all you can do to sit on your hands so you don't reply "OMG nobody cares, shut up about this." Don't worry, she'll get married here soon and then suddenly find her life empty with nothing to obsess about. Until she gets pregnant. And you'll put her on ignore when those updates start. Because the only thing worse than constant wedding updates are constant TMI pregnancy updates. ... not that I have someone very similar to this on my fb friends list or anything. ; )
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  </div><div>LOL I know! These people are ones that will want to have babies real soon so I'll be hearing about those pregnancy updates as well. 
  I think it's okay to update things on facebook once in a while about your wedding planning I updated that I was really exciting that I just tried on 15 different wedding dresses. I'm still in school so I avoid talking about wedding planning since I don't want people to think that the whole school is invited (there are 400 students at the school, small but HUGE for a wedding) People seemed to really love the status. But statuses about RSVP got about 2 likes or none at all. You would think she gets the hint. Oh well </div>

  

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• hoffse member

  

  May 2012 edited May 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_stop-the-obsessive-fb-wedding-updates-already-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:721d2a75-0022-4e73-bf84-c4386109e215Post:ae3b605e-5910-4856-bd1d-5def6e3e4cd6">Re: Stop the obsessive FB wedding updates already! VENT</a>:
  [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Stop the obsessive FB wedding updates already! VENT : LOL I know! These people are ones that will want to have babies real soon so I'll be hearing about those pregnancy updates as well.  I think it's okay to update things on facebook once in a while about your wedding planning I updated that I was really exciting that I just tried on 15 different wedding dresses. I'm still in school so I avoid talking about wedding planning since I don't want people to think that the whole school is invited (there are 400 students at the school, small but HUGE for a wedding) People seemed to really love the status. But statuses about RSVP got about 2 likes or none at all. You would think she gets the hint. Oh well 
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  <div>I have to be honest, and hopefully I don't offend anyone here, but I hate getting "we're having a baby!" formal announcements on facebook complete with ultrasound pic or whatever - that little bump in your uterus doesn't get me giggly and excited.  Especially when it's phrased as "John and I are pleased to announce that on x date we are having our first baby!"  OMG send a baby announcement AFTER the kid is born please.  In the mail.</div><div>
  </div><div>The worst was this poor girl I know whose sister was posting birthing updates as she was in labor "2 cm dilated! Can't wait to meet the little guy!"  "14 hours a long, and mommy is working hard!  Push mommy!"  Ewww.  If she were my sister, I would have killed her.</div>

  

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• heatherfitz member

  

  May 2012

  I love how people constantly complain about what others post on their facebook. There's a really simple solution to avoid scaring your precious eyes with someone else's excitement: hide or delete them It's THEIR facebook, they can post whatever the hell they want to. If someone wants to post their bikini bumps, odd as it may be to most, that's their prerogative. If they want the world to know how wide their vagina is during delivery, more power to them. People get excited and want to share things. Facebook is an outlet for that excitement. You know that going into it so don't act surprised when it happens. There is no such thing as facebook etiquette and to try and insinuate there is based on personal levels of discretion is ludicrous. 

  
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• heatherfitz member

  

  May 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_stop-the-obsessive-fb-wedding-updates-already-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:721d2a75-0022-4e73-bf84-c4386109e215Post:22504bac-6233-4daf-82a5-e37374a791d4">Re: Stop the obsessive FB wedding updates already! VENT</a>:
  [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Stop the obsessive FB wedding updates already! VENT : I would say that putting your freshly waxed bush on FB is a little outside the social norm. 
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  <div>Oh, and I completely agree, my whole point is that she has every right to do that, though. Odd? Yes. Gross? Of course. But meh, doesn't make me feel the need to flame her. Just scroll on past it. </div>

  
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• jmleejohnson

  

  May 2012

  hahahahaha this whole feed probably just made my whole morning. You guys make me happy.

  

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• megan8290

  

  May 2012 edited May 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_stop-the-obsessive-fb-wedding-updates-already-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:721d2a75-0022-4e73-bf84-c4386109e215Post:e8020495-ea43-462d-8eed-e77e68404ea0">Re: Stop the obsessive FB wedding updates already! VENT</a>:
  [QUOTE]I love how people constantly complain about what others post on their facebook. There's a really simple solution to avoid scaring your precious eyes with someone else's excitement: hide or delete them :) It's THEIR facebook, they can post whatever the hell they want to. If someone wants to post their bikini bumps, odd as it may be to most, that's their prerogative. If they want the world to know how wide their vagina is during delivery, more power to them. People get excited and want to share things. Facebook is an outlet for that excitement. You know that going into it so don't act surprised when it happens. There is no such thing as facebook etiquette and to try and insinuate there is based on personal levels of discretion is ludicrous. 
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  Yep, that's the unfortunate part. The fact that it is<span style="font-style:italic;"> their </span>facebook so they can post whatever the heck <span style="font-style:italic;">they</span> want. I unsubscribed from them after the first post but then I check in their wall once in awhile just to see how far they've taken it. It's amusing really. This is why it is better to talk of people like this on the forum instead of posting on their facebook wall and telling them that they are ridiculous. haha
  
  I really enjoyed the responses from everyone!

  

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• ChristineNB

  

  May 2012

  Ugh  my cousin was like that when she was engaged/planning her wedding.  Now one of of my friends is doing the constant wedding updates/freak outs/etc on her fb page.  I am not invited but I know all about when rsvp's are due, when she got her dress, what food she is having, where they are honeymooning, etc.  It's ridiculous.  I think all non-invited friends would like is to see pics of wedding

  

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• SVPW

  

  May 2012

  A fb "friend" of mine just had a baby yesterday and the baby already has his own fb page and 8 "friends". Smh.

  

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• beautifulvice

  

  May 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_stop-the-obsessive-fb-wedding-updates-already-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:721d2a75-0022-4e73-bf84-c4386109e215Post:0944fbb8-a5de-4e3b-a154-5780b98c5530">Re: Stop the obsessive FB wedding updates already! VENT</a>:
  [QUOTE]That's annoying.  Hide this person from your newsfeed or delete them from your friends and you won't have to see that garbage.  I had a friend obsessing about her wedding and posting countdowns and pictures of everything which was annoying, but tolerable. <strong>I angrily deleted her when she announced her pre-wedding Brazilian wax complete with a photo of the red areas of her upper legs and lower belly tagged with "Ouchies! The things I do for love"(she had underwear on, thank god).</strong> No thank you, TMI, I'm defriending you so you can't assault my eyes with that nonsense anymore.
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  Oh, ew.  Just... ew.

  
  
  

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• chrryblndchick

  

  May 2012

  I had a friend like that on facebook. She started with "OMG just bought my first bridal magazines, soooooo excited" right after she got engaged and it only went down hill from there. I wanted to reach through my computer screen and slap some sense into her. I blocked her from my news feed for now becuase the constant stream of crazy got too annoying to deal with.

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• Jujubrown

  

  July 2013

  It's surprising to me that some Brides are so nasty and critical of other Brides expressing the joy they are feeling. TRUE FRIENDS don't act that way and they share your excitement and are happy for you
  Just too many young Brides who are immature , spoiled , negative and possibly jealous, Facebook is a social site explicitly to SHARE INFORMATION. And YOUR page is your page.... Once you learn there are more ways than YOUR WAY...... Maybe you will learn how to support and love your friends AND HOPEFULLY LOVE YOUR HUSBAND and respect his simple choices. Sounds like you are one of those FB STALKERS!

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• ambermarie089 member

  

  July 2013 edited July 2013

  
  

  Jujubrown said:

  It's surprising to me that some Brides are so nasty and critical of other Brides expressing the joy they are feeling. TRUE FRIENDS don't act that way and they share your excitement and are happy for you Just too many young Brides who are immature , spoiled , negative and possibly jealous, Facebook is a social site explicitly to SHARE INFORMATION. And YOUR page is your page.... Once you learn there are more ways than YOUR WAY...... Maybe you will learn how to support and love your friends AND HOPEFULLY LOVE YOUR HUSBAND and respect his simple choices. Sounds like you are one of those FB STALKERS!

     If people should be allowed to post whatever they want on Facebook and not be judged, then how is this forum any different? Their not allowed to judge their acquaintances / friends on a social site but your allowed to judge others on a different social site? 

      Plus calling to question posters love for their spouses or SO's shows that you are much more spiteful and judgmental than any of the above posters. They were just expressing that they didn't want to hear constant declarations of love not that they were in any way doubting their sincerity. 
  

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• kmmssg mod

  

  July 2013

  @jujubrown - you resurrected a thread that has been dead for 14 months for that?  

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• ambermarie089 member

  

  July 2013

  Oh darn, I didn't even notice that...

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• AddieCake member

  

  July 2013

  @jujubrown

  
  

  Aside from the pointlessness of resurrecting an ancient thread to say that, I also find it ridiculous that you would call her a FB stalker. It's hardly stalking when you look at your newsfeed and see peoples' status updates popping up. 

  
  

  
  

  What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14

  

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• misshart00 member

  

  July 2013

  What does loving your husband have to do with Facebook?
  
  And how did you even find this thread?

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