I just wanted to vent a little and see if any other bride to be has a lot of declines and guest list issues. We invited 375 people knowing I had the budget for 320. The extra people were all of my parents guests who agreed to pay the extra if I had gone over the 320 guests. Wedding is next month on Aug31st and we have 62 declines and I anticipate more. We have 225 accepted and still 87 people left to RSVP. I hope we at least have 300 people or all this money spent would seem like a waste.
I guess I am finding out who really is my friend. It is a little depressing since there are certain family members and friends who I thought for sure would attend. One girl said she was going out of town for work the week before. Apparently it is cheaper for her boss to fly her back home on the Saturday of the wedding. Plus it would cost money to switch flights. If the roles were reversed I would have paid anything extra to be there for her special day. Another girl said she had no plans for that day and would get back to me. WTF? You have no plans. If you wanted to attend the wedding you would make that your plan. She said she would send her love with her parents who will be attending. Another girlfriend said she is not sure yet b/c her dad is having eye surgery. I have no clue what that means. Is her father having the surgery on that Saturday? She has a big family and out of all her family members she would be the last person to take care of him. I just said "oh ok that is too bad." to everyone. What else are u supposed to say? Two co workers just sent the reply back with a decline. They just apologized that they could not make it. They didn't offer a reason why and I get they really don't have to tell me. I am figuring out these relationships meant more to me then vice versa.
To top it off I had 8 relatives that live out of province decline. They were just here in March for my uncle's funeral and said how they were looking forward to the wedding. Now they have all declined b/c 4 of them will be on vacation in France. Why would they book the vacation during the wedding? The other 4 people in the same city declined simply stating b/c the others could not make it they were not coming. My mother is upset and hurt since they are from her side and we have all made the trip to weddings there. They made an effort to say that they will mail me a cheque. Seriously? I don't care about the gifts or money. I wanted the people who I thought I was close with to be present on one of the best days of my life. Just typing this out makes me fee selfish but I can't help but feel down.
Anyone else feeling a little bummed?