Too early?

Re: Too early?

• MyNameIsNot member

  

  July 2013

  She can buy a dress abroad or at college and have it altered.  Since you're just giving a color swatch, it's fine to give it to her now, but it is unreasonable to ask her to buy a dress now.  Just give her the swatch and let her know that the rest is up to her.  

  
  

  Two weeks is plenty of time to get alterations.  The tailor at my cleaners turns things around in 2-3 days.  With being away at school and being abroad, it's unlikely that her body will be the same in May as it is in January.  She may even choose something that doesn't need alterations.  

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• MayDay513 member

  

  July 2013

  I think since you are giving her a color swatch then she should be good to go. It is her responsibility to get it done. Having a dress bought and altered 4 months before the wedding is a little bit much. I mean when I was in college my weight fluctuated so much (stressful quarters etc). Let her be responsible for it. I definitely get where you are coming from. My SIL was starting school in Jan and my wedding was in May, and I told her I didn't want my wedding stuff to interfere with her schooling (nursing school) and suggested maybe getting the dress before she started, but it was her cash flow and her initiative to get it done. She got her dress probably the end of March and got it altered the week before the wedding. YOUR FSIL IS AN ADULT. She can handle it, if she wants to be in the wedding.
  

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• misssunshine17 member

  

  July 2013

  This is not your issue. If you worry about all these details and micromanage everyone, you're going to be stressed and family/friends annoyed with you. 

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• DeeDee28x member

  

  July 2013

  Not my issue? I'm not really sure what you're trying to get at here..Every wedding I've been in I have been given the chance to try on the dresses that the bride wanted us to wear...I'm going to be picking out the dresses and allowing them to basically choose their own neckline..I want them to be able to go to the store and try on the dresses and see which one fits the best and which they are most comfortable in. Last I checked, there weren't too many David's Bridals located in Italy. I'm trying to make it easier for her, so she doesn't need to worry about this when she is abroad, and has the opportunity like everyone else to try on the dresses and choose the one she is most comfortable with. If this is making me "micromanage" everyone because I want them to be happy with their dress, then I must be the most annoying person to my friends/family. I'm doing this for HER convenience, not mine. 

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• msuprincess04 member

  

  July 2013

  PP's just suggesting you to let it go. Your sister is, presumably, mature enough to know she needs to buy a dress. If trying dresses on and picking her favorite based on trying it on is important, it's also assumed she'd take care of it. You can suggest she go early when she has time, but, then, leave it to her to take care of how and when she wants. This isn't something you need to worry about because it isn't your timeline or your dress. Pressuring her to do it early, isn't doing something for her convenience. She'll get to it when she gets to it. She may not be that worried about it. In Italy she can get her measurements and just order the dress online, so it'll be available for you or someone else to pick it up when it comes in. 

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• gpeeples member

  

  July 2013

  2 weeks isn't really enough time to get alterations.  Maybe David's Bridal is just run poorly, but when my bridesmaid went in 3 weeks before my wedding to get her alterations, they told her they wouldn't be able to get it done in time, so she ended up doing her alterations herself (luckily she's good with sewing).
  

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• MyNameIsNot member

  

  July 2013

  Not my issue? I'm not really sure what you're trying to get at here..Every wedding I've been in I have been given the chance to try on the dresses that the bride wanted us to wear...I'm going to be picking out the dresses and allowing them to basically choose their own neckline..I want them to be able to go to the store and try on the dresses and see which one fits the best and which they are most comfortable in. Last I checked, there weren't too many David's Bridals located in Italy. I'm trying to make it easier for her, so she doesn't need to worry about this when she is abroad, and has the opportunity like everyone else to try on the dresses and choose the one she is most comfortable with. If this is making me "micromanage" everyone because I want them to be happy with their dress, then I must be the most annoying person to my friends/family. I'm doing this for HER convenience, not mine. 

  In your OP, you said that you were going to choose a color and fabric.  Why would that necessitate her buying a dress from David's?  They do have dresses in Italy, you know.  They also have the internet.  

  Telling her when and where to buy a dress is micromanaging.  Give her the swatch, and let her know that she's responsible for getting the dress and having it by the wedding.  Unless she's seriously incompetent, she can manage to get the dress without you telling her where and when.  

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• MyNameIsNot member

  

  July 2013

  gpeeples said:

  2 weeks isn't really enough time to get alterations.  Maybe David's Bridal is just run poorly, but when my bridesmaid went in 3 weeks before my wedding to get her alterations, they told her they wouldn't be able to get it done in time, so she ended up doing her alterations herself (luckily she's good with sewing).
  

  Other tailors can do alterations.  She could have taken it elsewhere to get it done within 2 weeks.  

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• Viczaesar member

  

  July 2013

  gpeeples said:

  2 weeks isn't really enough time to get alterations.  Maybe David's Bridal is just run poorly, but when my bridesmaid went in 3 weeks before my wedding to get her alterations, they told her they wouldn't be able to get it done in time, so she ended up doing her alterations herself (luckily she's good with sewing).
  

  Nobody should get alterations done at David's Bridal.  They overcharge, take a ridiculous amount of time, and generally do a piss-poor job.  Go to an independent seamstress, or don't worry about getting your dress altered.  The dress doesn't have to fit like a glove and be tailored to the bridesmaid's body like a wedding dress usually is.
  

  
  
  
  

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• KeptInStitches member

  

  July 2013

  @Viczaesar is right. I had alterations on a BM's dress done at David's Bridal - never again. They took it in way too far to the point that I was turning blue from lack of air when they forced me into it.

  

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• lizard85 member

  

  July 2013

  or have her go with you now before school starts....try some on and find the one she wants...closer to the date of the wedding she can order the size that will be closest and then she can have it altered when she gets home...
  

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• Ajuliana member

  

  July 2013

  OR you could fly to Italy and go shopping there for BM dresses! 

  
  

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