Bridal Shower

smkt07 · July 2013

Does the husband go to the bridal shower?

MayDay513 · July 2013

Bridal shower, not normally. Couples Shower, yes.

smkt07 · July 2013

Thank you. My mother is trying to tell my finance and I that he had to come for the meal part, and he just does not want to eat lunch with a group of females.

itzMS · July 2013

smkt07 said:

Thank you. My mother is trying to tell my finance and I that he had to come for the meal part, and he just does not want to eat lunch with a group of females.

@smkt07 In my circle, the groom does typically stop in for a bit. Usually he "surprises" the bride with flowers, people take pictures of the happy couple, and he helps the bride thank the guests.

PatriceC59 · July 2013

There was a post about this type of thing not too long ago although I can't remember if it was here or in the "pre-wedding parties" board.

Maybe I can sum up the long and short of it

1. It seems like there are regional and social circle differences of opinion on this matter. There were some ladies who said it'd be a cold day in hell when their fiance came to their bridal shower and others (like myself) who are in places/circles where it is very normal for the fiance to show up towards the end and say hello to the ladies.

2. Do what you are most comfortable with. If the ladies in your family dont' typically do this or you don't your fiance within 500 yards, then I say don't do it.

3. Consider his feelings as well. If he would rather have a root canal, don't force him to come. It will be very obvious he doesn't want to be there and that might come across as rude/ungracious to the ladies that are being hosted.

4. It seems that wedding/bridal showers have certain specific meanings in some circles/regions and in others they are used interchangeably.

Hope that covered it. If he doesn't want to be there, I say send him golfing with the boys that day. Congratulations and I hope you have a great shower!

MairePoppy · July 2013

PatriceC59 said:
Hope that covered it. If he doesn't want to be there, I say send him golfing with the boys that day. Congratulations and I hope you have a great shower!

In my social circle, it's not unusual for the groom to show up at the end of the shower to thank the guests for the gifts and pack them into the car. My DD and SIL decided that he should get to do something fun with his friends that day. He went golfing : )

No one thought it was strange that he didn't show up.

KDM323 · July 2013

In my circle - he usually comes towards the end, says hello and thank you and helps the bride to be carry any presents.

coolwhipz1 · July 2013

I've never been to a shower where the groom was at all present.

We did have a couples shower though, so obviously he was there for that.

NOLAbridealmost · July 2013

I run in a tight-knit group of guys and gals. All of our life events--showers, B parties, etc.--have been mixed company. PPs covered the etiquette of the groom's attendance, but I do think this is a know your crowd thing. Etiquette aside, (and pardon the mini-rant) I personally HATE the idea that the "guys" should be off having beers, golfing, watching the game (stuff I love to do) while the ladies sip tea and ooh and ahhh over china while playing bridal bingo (which I'm pretty sure no one actually enjoys). I would, personally, insist that my FI be there.

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