I'm so frustrated with just about everyone that I don't even know what to do anymore.
For
starters, I asked my best friend, my two sisters and my future sister
in law to be bridesmaids. While my best friend, my FSIL and one of my
sisters are thrilled, the other sister has decided to be difficult.
Through weeks of me bending over backwards to try to involve her
(including offering to pay for part of her dress and pay for the gas for
her to drive from Tucson to Phoenix) she has decided that she won't
even be attending the wedding because A: She can't afford half of the
$130 dress, B: PRIDE is the weekend of the wedding and she doesn't want
to miss it, and C: I refused to invite her EX-girlfriend to the wedding.
Moving on to the groomsmen. My FI has asked his best friend and
two brothers to be groomsmen. His oldest brother agreed to being a
groomsman, but has since then started ignoring all of my FI's attempts
to contact him. His best friend also agreed to be a groomsman, but also
said that he won't be attending the rehearsal because he can't find
someone to watch his cats while he's out of town for the two days (He
lives in Tucson, we're in Phoenix). And now with two months until the
wedding he is talking about backing out completely because he's not sure
if he can afford the rental (which normally I'd be sympathetic with,
but his issue is purely not being able to properly handle money).
In
an effort to make things cheaper, FI decided to find suit separates at a
Burlington Coat Factory. They had a good selection, we found what we
were looking for, and we bought FI a suit for the wedding, and planned
on letting the groomsmen know that they could just buy a shirt and
slacks there. Now FI can't decide if he wants to stick with the original
rental, or the Burlington suit.
I'm just so frustrated at this
point that I don't even know what to do anymore. Everyone says they
"want to be involved", but then make it out to be a huge inconvenience.