BS: One of my besties has been seriously dating her boyfriend for about 2 years now and they're starting to discuss marriage. He's Indian, and is in the country (Canada) going to school. She said that it's very important to him to have a full Indian wedding back home, but she still wants to have one back home for her family who won't be able to go all the way to India.
So, she knows I lurk on here quite a bit, so she wanted me to ask this question. Would it be considered a PPD if she went to India to have the big 5 day shabang there (apparantly it's really elaborate, quite excited to see it if it goes down!), and then came back to Canada and had a very small, like 25 people or less, wedding in her parents back yard? She has no idea if she would be considered legally married in Canada if the first ceremony/wedding is in India, so that's a factor obviously. I said I had no idea either, but she should at the very least let people know that they had a ceremony/celebration and what not in India, and that THEY consider themselves married even if it might not be legal in our country. That way people know that this isn't the first time down the isle so to speak for either of them. She said that made sense, because she wouldn't want people to feel obligated to spend money on her if it wasn't the real deal (God I love that girl...). Just wanted to know what you guys think.
On a side note, our other friend who was in the car with us, who is also me and FI's roommate, said that was ridiculous and they shouldn't have to tell anyone what they've done, and that it doesn't change anything. I explained the etiquette behind PPD and why they're rude, and she thought it was the married couples perogative to not tell anyone and still reap the benefits. She proceeded to go on about when she gets married (she's not dating anyone), that she will probably do something super private with like 4 people, and then have a PPD after, and she doesn't care what people think. I told her if I found out she was already married and then had a 2nd "wedding", I probably wouldn't come. Why she asks... well because it's fake! You're already married!! And you lied to everyone saying you weren't, and expected them to still shell out possibly hundreds of dollars to come see your fake wedding. She was very quiet on the way there. But whatever, ain't gonna let that shit slide for nobody. She conceeded later that she understood where I was coming from.