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Bridesmaid cant come to rehearsal

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our wedding is this Saturday in four days...

even though I planned our rehearsal 8 MONTH AGO one of my bridesmaids just texted me (three day before rehearsal) claiming she had to work until 7 and cant make it until 7:30 to the rehearsal that starts at 5:30. WTFFFF I am so Fing pissed right now. I haven't even texted back. I know stuff comes up with her work and she often has scheduling conflicts. but SERIOUSLY I planned this long ago, well in advance. so basically we are going to rehears without her. im so pissed. I don't even know what to do and we cant change the time.

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  • VarunaTTVarunaTT member
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    She has to do the same thing as all the other bridesmaids, right? She can probably figure it out by following the other ones.

    As long as you don't have some outlandish choreographed dance (please don't), this isn't rocket science.  She'll get it.  Simmer down.  Not a big deal in the grand scheme of things and not worth getting so worked up over.

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  • bethsmilesbethsmiles member
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    Take a deep breath. You are completely overreacting and in danger of acting like a bridezilla here. Weddings aren't complicated. I'm sure your bridesmaid is an intelligent woman who is capable of understanding how to walk down the aisle.

    It sucks that she can't make it and I can understand being bummed but her life doesn't revolve around your wedding. She has to work, I don't know what you expect her to do. Tell her she'll be missed but you understand and look forward to seeing her later that evening.


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  • alikatt17alikatt17 member
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    You just follow the person in front of you, it's really not that hard.
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  • 6fsn6fsn member
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    I'm sure she can figure it out. 

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  • Lyds85Lyds85 member
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    ok... ill chill out. its just really frustrating when you plan things in advance and then people at the last minute are like oh I have to work. im not trying to be a brideszilla here but its really disappointing that she dropped the ball on this.
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  • 6fsn6fsn member
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    I'm sure she'd rather be with you, but sometimes life (work) comes first.

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  • tawillerstawillers member
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    Lyds85 said:
    ok... ill chill out. its just really frustrating when you plan things in advance and then people at the last minute are like oh I have to work. im not trying to be a brideszilla here but its really disappointing that she dropped the ball on this.


    What is it with posters being so pissed that their bridal parties have their own lives today?

    So what you are saying is that she needs to tell her boss she cannot work so she can come practice walking?

    She dropped zero balls here.

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  • Jessica41381Jessica41381 member
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    I don't think not making the rehearsal is such a big deal. Unless you are planning some elaborate walk down the aisle then it shouldn't be a huge cause of stress.

    I have a bridesmaid who can't make my rehearsal and I'm not mad, things happen, work happens and people have lives and jobs so it's not a big deal to me and my wedding is Saturday also.
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  • MayDay513MayDay513 member
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    Lyds85 said:

    our wedding is this Saturday in four days...

    even though I planned our rehearsal 8 MONTH AGO one of my bridesmaids just texted me (three day before rehearsal) claiming she had to work until 7 and cant make it until 7:30 to the rehearsal that starts at 5:30. WTFFFF I am so Fing pissed right now. I haven't even texted back. I know stuff comes up with her work and she often has scheduling conflicts. but SERIOUSLY I planned this long ago, well in advance. so basically we are going to rehears without her. im so pissed. I don't even know what to do and we cant change the time.

    Breathe. It's ok. She can figure it out. Bummer she can't make it. But she can figure out how to walk in a straight line and hold some flowers. The other BMs can fill her in. She isn't required to attend all events except the wedding, even if she originally said she could, LIFE HAPPENS.

    Our bestman, got a job where he had to work swing shift (3-11:30pm) we didn't even know if he could make it to the wedding (his time off got approved like 2 weeks before), he didn't make it to the rehearsal, we were sad he didn't get to join us for dinner but it's ok.
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    tawillers said:
    Lyds85 said:
    ok... ill chill out. its just really frustrating when you plan things in advance and then people at the last minute are like oh I have to work. im not trying to be a brideszilla here but its really disappointing that she dropped the ball on this.


    What is it with posters being so pissed that their bridal parties have their own lives today?

    So what you are saying is that she needs to tell her boss she cannot work so she can come practice walking?

    She dropped zero balls here.

    This.  Yes, it's disappointing but not the end of the world.

    Every wedding I've ever been in I walked down the aisle and stood for the ceremony.  When I was my BFF's MOH, I held her flowers and gave her the ring. Your friend will figure it out.

    Her job is more important than your wedding.  She may have been OK'd to have the time off and something happened.  Or she had a schedule previously that would have accommodated your rehearsal and then it changed and she cannot get the time off.   It sucks, but what can you do?
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  • MissMollyMissMolly member
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    No worries, I know it seems like a big deal right now, but I'm 100% sure that she can watch what the other BMs are doing, and follow along with them. Congrats, by the way -- our wedding days are the same day! Excited? :-)
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  • Lyds85Lyds85 member
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    OK... Thank you for giving me a reality check. you ladies are right. im glad I talked to you all first before I called her and went all bridezilla on her... That could have been drama... I was just really disappointed.

    Im not happy about it, but really there's nothing I can do and like you all said people have lives and jobs and I need to remember that. also that sometimes things don't go as planned.   

     

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  • Lyds85Lyds85 member
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    edited July 2013

    thanks ladies :)

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  • bethsmilesbethsmiles member
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    Lyds85 said:
    Good news! Someone can cover for her so she is coming after all :)
    That's great! I'm glad everything is going to work out :)


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  • MayDay513MayDay513 member
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    YAY! Now you can be extra glad you didn't freak out at her about it. :)
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