$$$ Dollar/Money Dance? $$$

Emily1151 · July 2010

A few years ago I went to a wedding that had a "dollar dance", in which guests pay to dance with the bride or groom. I thought it was tacky at the time! But now, I've gone to a few more weddings- and it is ALWAYS done! My question is-

1. do YOU think the money/dollar dance is tacky?

2. Are you doing it at your wedding?

3. What song will you dance to... fast or slow?

MISSCOURTNEY20 · July 2010

1. do YOU think the money/dollar dance is tacky? I really don't have a thought about it. If it's what your circle does, then who am I to judge?

2. Are you doing it at your wedding? Nope

3. What song will you dance to... fast or slow? Maybe a medium tempo

aerinpegadrak · July 2010

We didn't have any dancing, but even if we had, there wouldn't have been a dollar dance. I hate them as a guest, they kill the party and I always feel really awkward sitting out.

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girl2bewed · July 2010

Dollar dances are HUGELY popular in my area and are done at nearly every wedding. We decided not to do one and the DJ was shocked, he said he has people request them if he hasn't played them, but we still decided we didn't want one. Niether of us really like the idea of having guests pay to dance with you, and FI isn't crazy with having to dance with a lot of other people lol. I think traditionally it was done to give the newleyweds some cash to take with them on their HM.

That being said though, I would not think it was tacky to attend a wedding that had one, since like I said every single wedding here does them. We just decided its not for us.

quotequeen · July 2010

I would never do one and would never participate in one. I think that if it's really common in your family and people will be disappointed if you don't do it, then it can possibly be ok. If you're doing it in any way shape or form because you want the cash, it's horribly tacky.

AmberMarieTX · July 2010

I've only been to a few weddings here in Texas and I don't think I ever saw it done. In Louisiana, however, I have been to about five weddings and they all did it there. It's normal, even at a fancy wedding that I went to.

I'm not going to do it because it's awkward for me. I think my guests may be confused, also just because most of them have never seen it... so I think it's a regional thing.

blondie82784 · July 2010

1. do YOU think the money/dollar dance is tacky? I think its extremely tacky

2. Are you doing it at your wedding? Definitely NOT, My FSIL did it at her wedding and I think it was so tacky !!! your guest are there to enjoy not pay out to dance... They shouldn't be opening their wallets at all... She ended up bringing the money up to the bar and paying for the bridal parties drinks... Your guest didn't come to pay for the bridal parties drinks. TACKY

3. What song will you dance to... fast or slow?

trix1223 · July 2010

1. do YOU think the money/dollar dance is tacky? Yes, I think it's very tacky.

2. Are you doing it at your wedding? No, I didn't. And I married into a family that **always** had them. We were the first to skip it. I've now been MOG and MOB and neither of my children had them either.

3. What song will you dance to... fast or slow? n/a as I didn't have one. I will say though that fast kind of defeats what people claim is the purpose: to have one on one face time with the bride/groom. That doesn't really happen in a fast dance.

orangespiders · July 2010

This is very much a personal choice. A common tradition here is to kidnap the bride and put a ridiculous amounnt for ransom and collect from guests. I think that is horribly tacky but my best friend is dead set on doing it.

FI and I are doing the dollar dance. It is also common tradition here. We will discuss with the band, who ROCKS and has done many weddings, what they suggest for music. Whether they will play or it will be done during a break with CD music.

Last spring I went to a platinum wedding for FI's niece in Phoenix where they did the dollar dance. There were so many people at her beautiful wedding that they had to play 5 or 6 songs for everyone to have a chance to dance. Many other people were on the dance floor as well and they were medium tempo songs.

Simply Fated · July 2010

1. do YOU think the money/dollar dance is tacky?
I think it's tacky to charge your guests to dance with you, which is basically what's happening. I mean, I won't charge them for alcohol, either. Or food.

2. Are you doing it at your wedding?
No, I don't want people to pay me for dancing. Also, it's not done in my circles, so a lot of people probably won't even know

ehathewa · July 2010

1. Yes.
2. No.

I would think it was less tacky if the dance money was donated to a charity chosen by the couple.

tdh123 · July 2010

I do not think it is tacky at all! All of the people at your wedding are your closest friends and family. People who care about you. Most weddings I have been to the dollar dance has always been fun and most of all funny! You are not asking for 50 and 100's. It's just a fun little thing to get everyone involved. And not everyone will participate of course. I think it's just a good time to have a good laugh. We will probably have one at my wedding!

MeaghanandMichael · July 2010

How is this even a question? Obviously there are people out there comfortable sticking their hand out for cash at their own reception. I am clearly not one of them and I hope I never will be.

ReneeLynnC · July 2010

I am new to these boards & this may be a little off-topic, but I have noticed MANY MANY women on here are really not nice. People leave snarky comments & act all high & mighty. It's extremely off-putting.

Anyway, as far as the dollar dance, I am not doing it at my wedding, but my sister did it at hers. I have seen it at every wedding I have attended. It's not seen as "mooching for money". It is seen as just another reception tradition. I have never seen any guests not like it. In fact, most people LOVE it. The bride stands there, the line usually rounds all over the place & each person grabs the bride, swings her around & laughs with her (up tempo music)...most people I have seen go in line twice to do it again. It lasts a few songs, but everyone loves it. Most people put a dollar in, but even more are happy to throw a hundred in the bag - which is what me and my FI do when we dance with the bride. It's lighthearted & fun. Then, usually after everyone dances, we crowd around the bride & the hubby has to break through the crowd to get to her. This was actually the most fun part of my sisters reception - people were having a blast! I guess it just depends on what kind of company you keep - the fun crowds certainly don't mind the dollar dance here in PA.

Brewcogs · July 2010

I think its tacky if its not usually done in your area of the country. If it is a common tradition in your area, or among your family and friends, then go for it! I am not doing one because I have never been to a wedding with a dollar dance, and I feel like my guests would be confused/ caught off guard.

I say a medium paced song- something that is slow enough to slow-dance to, but nothing romantic or uncomfortable.

jessiandcary · July 2010

Wow, I never thought people would be so opiniated when it came to this topic! I have never been to a wedding where the money dance hasn't been done. But, then again, it has always only been one song long, completely optional, and there are always people partisipating. I have participated at other people's weddings and have always just thought of it as a little way of helping out the newlyweds for the honeymoon/ new life together. If you think about it as just trying to get a handout, you could go as far as to say you also shouldn't assume people are going to bring gifs. Nobody should ever be expected to give you anything but good wishes for your wedding, and some will choose not to; but a lot of people like the idea of giving an extra hand to the couple, and this is one of them.

lisamarie0604 · July 2010

my family and the groom's family are both Polish, and this is a big tradition in our culture. However, my fiance and I have decided not to do it. People bring you money and gifts and have been showering you enough on your day, not to mention travel expenses, you don't need to be any greedier it just seems rude and off-putting...why not ask them to pay for their own meals and drinks too at that point?

I do think it would seem better and less tacky if the couple did do it in honor of a special charity for donation, but still a wedding doesn't seem the most appropriate place to do so, why not just donate the money as your favor in honor of your guests sharing that day with you?

remember the day is just as much about celebrating it with those you love as it is about you!

frogrobyn · July 2010

I am debating on this myself. Part of me wants to do it. Part of me thinks it's tacky to ask people to come to our wedding, maybe bring gifts and then give us money to dance with us? Then again, I picked a few cute songs for the dances.

I thought of Pennys in my pocket by Mandy Moore

Oh and the Money song.... I want Money, ( It was in Empire Records)

I mean heck worse comes to worse, you might end up getting a few dollars to pay for roomservice?

starrynight1658 · July 2010

Dollar dances are really popular in my area, and although I was originally against the idea, I think it could be a fun way for me to make sure I get to touch base with people that I might not get a chance to in those few hours.

But I'm definitely thinking moderate tempo songs that you can have a slow dance style dance to, but without the romance/sappy/sentimental bit. I've been at weddings where the dollar dance was done with romantic songs, and it was kind of awkward.

TheMcIntyres · July 2010

brides on here can be so rude! just state your opinion...no need to be all high and mighty.

OP if the dollar dance seems like fun to you and is common in your area go for it! i'm positive that none of the people who care about you will think you are greedy.

erollis · July 2010

Didn't realise that this may have or does come from a Polish tradition. Very interesting.

We are not having a dollar dance. No one in either of our families would understand what is going on. It is common for some circles of people in our area to have them though. Plus I do not find it tacky if it is a tradition in your area/ for your family.

mhickey426 · July 2010

I only heard about this a couple of weeks ago on here. I think its TACKY and reminded me of a stripper. how do u ask your guests who are already giving you a gift to pay to have a dance with you. Dont do it

kimchs_2000 · July 2010

I am from Texas and every wedding I attend has the dollar dance. People who go to weddings around here expect that you will have a dollar dance. They do not have to participate but do because it is a way to get some one on one time with the bride or groom. The women on here who say it is tacky can't fathom the idea of having one because they probably have never seen it done. Ya'll really should learn some tact. Your are knocking people's traditions that were started way before we were born.

Noellesmama · July 2010

It is very common where I am from. And every wedding that I have been to has done the dance.

I plan on doing this to maybe 2-3 songs tops...only because I think it gets pretty boring, and it looks like were asking for more money.

We will do it to a slow song...if we decided against it our family would find a way to give us money.

Do I think its tacky? No, because certain regions are accustomed to doing this. But to each their own.

goetzr19 · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_dollarmoney-dance?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:5Discussion:34585e92-5377-4cc8-bb09-b996b0c94873Post:519ee93b-01cc-4535-bd93-e7cf25e5261e">Re: $$$ Dollar/Money Dance? $$$</a>:
[QUOTE]We are. DJ suggested that we do so we can get time with guests we might not have had time with. We are doing slower tempo music and I limited the dj to only 4-5 songs. I don't want it to last all night!!
Posted by panda10[/QUOTE]

Ditto this. We don't want poeple to HAVE to pay to dance with us. We just want to be able to dance with many people, and to have a good time and laugh. I understand that some people find it tacky, but then again, I feel the dollar dance is meant to be more of a fun-loving, humorous dance than a "stick out your hand" for cash. Seriously, if someone doesn't wanna give a dollar but wants to dance, then they are more than welcome to dance. And if you are a guest who freaks out at the thought of it, or being at a wedding with one, then close your eyes or take a trip to the bar and DEAL WITH IT. After all, it's the couple who chose it, and you have to respect that.

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