My FSMIL used to work for a florist and still does wedding flowers every summer for several people. She hasn't come out and said that she wants to do the flowers for our wedding, but we have talked about flowers and she says "we can do this or we can do that". My problem is that I feel bad having her do all the flowers. I want really nice flower centerpieces for the reception plus a few big pieces for the ceremony and all the bridal party flowers. This is so much work and I hate to have her do all that, but I think if I hired a florist to do even part of it that she would be horribly offended. Should I ask her if she's doing the flowers and how much she wants to do?