Is MOH wrong?
My best friend (K) is part of the WP for her brothers wedding. She paid for my ticket to go to the brides Bachelorette (I was planning my wedding and couldn't) This week K gets a text from MOH saying I still owe money (Not the first time). K (again) tells her I do not but MOH insists that I do. One of MOH’s friends backed out of going a while ago and did not pay for her ticket, so I am 98% positive that MOH is just trying to cover the cost of that ticket. In addition MOH informs K that I also will owe money for the Limo/Party bus, Tip, and something else. I am not a host of this Bachelorette… I found out that this whole time MOH has been booking/planning w/o consulting any of the other WP members... just plans and dictates who owes what.
K has opted out of going due to MOH's treatment in insinuating that she owes money she does not and essentially calling her a liar... she is also upset that MOH just keeps dictating money owed and feels more like a bank than a bridesmaid. MOH has now caused all sorts of drama to follow... went and told B&G (Groom is K's brother) that K wasn't going because she had better plans... not true... and now B&G are bombarding K w/ nasty texts and so is the MOH and MOB. Groom has told K not to bother being in or coming to the wedding (did not put it that nicely)...
Is it just me, or did MOH just deflect the blame completely onto K and now caused HUGE drama between a Brother, Sister and Brother's future wife?
** Side note - K is going to give MOB money for her BM dress (MOB paid for all of the dresses) and also give the money for the ticket that was already paid for because she feels it would be wrong not to. My opinion is that if she pays for the dress and even more money for tickets she already paid for, then she should get to keep the dress and tickets? Am I wrong... she didn't quit the WP she was asked to GTFO...
Re: Is MOH wrong?
Tickets for what?
Yes, she gets to keep everything she paid for.
The MOH was completely in the wrong here. It sounds like she planned a party without talking to anyone and no one could afford it. But the bride and groom are to blame as well. They should have talked to your friend before flying off the handle and its not okay to kick someone out of the wedding. It does damaged that at times cannot be repaired.
It sounds like your friend's relationship with her brother has been destroyed over a stupid party.
Oh, yeah, then she gets to keep them (and hopefully sell them on StubHub or Ebay).
But if I was your friend and I didn't get an apology there is no way I'd attend their wedding.
Frankly it sounds like MOH, MOB, B and G are suffering from entitlement complexes.
@Southernbelle0915 - the MOH isn't just expecting the bridesmaids to pay a part of the transportation/tip etc. She expects the people invited to the party to also pay a portion... I was told this just the other day. I am not a bridesmaid, I am not party of the WP in anyway, I am just a party goer
@Banana468 - As far as I know K hasn't involved her mother in this... and honestly I'm not sure what difference it would make... K's mother kind of baby's her brother and always has... something K and I have in common.
@ Southernbelle0915 - Ok that's what I thought! If she had asked me if I would be willing to help pay, I would have said sure! But being told, oh hey you RSVP'd yes so you also have to pay for x,y & z - I think not!
@misssunshine17 - She can't show up anymore, her brother "wrote her into the history books" and told her to not come.
So yeah, I like the letter idea. This MOH sounds like a poisonous relationship and she will just keep escalating. Sheesh.
What MOH should have done, is sat with bridesmaids and allowed them to say how much they are willing to contribute to establish a budget, what the wp is responsible for and what it will cost to include others.
If MOH wants to add things without consulting people, it becomes her responsibility. She's being nasty and careless. To bring this to the attention of the bride and groom is deplorable.
For the groom to kick his very sister out of the wedding because she's not paying for other people is the worst part. I hope for your friend's sake that they are able to resolve this before hand.
Honestly, if she hasn't paid for anything yet, she shouldn't. Let the bride and groom, who kicked her out of the wedding, pay her portion to the MOB. She should also be getting the value of the tickets, or the ticket back if she paid for it.
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